To not pick Mum up?

[advicepleasex]

Mum just rang us to see if OH can pick her up from a funeral reception apparently no one can give her a lift.

I've just had a c-section so can't drive and I have ds and dd I don't want to be left alone with them because I'm still in pain.

He can't be bothered and wants to relax plus he just took her to a job interview Wednesday and picked her up.

We're not mean are we?

[cloudyweewee]

Can't she get a taxi?

[Camelsinthegobi]

No, not mean. She can get a bus or taxi.

[Coolaschmoola]

Does she do anything for you?

[advicepleasex]

That's what we've just said not sure why she went up there if she couldn't get back? we always give her lifts so she just expects them.

[RaptorInaPorkPieHat]

how far is it?

[Aprilshowersnowastorm]

I suggest you make it known she needs to be a bit more self sufficient now you have 3 dc including a newborn!!

[nopeni]

Depends. Funerals can be draining, if it doesn't cost your husband much time or money it's not a big demand from a Mum. Sounds like she's unemployed so probably short on cash. (I'm assuming there's a backstory though?)

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1]

How old is she?

[SelinaMyers]

How on earth does it sound like she’s unemployed?

[Bluelady]

I was with you until you said he can't be bothered. You lost me then

[advicepleasex]

Probably about 13 mile round trip it's on the other side of town and then you have to pass our house again and on the motorway for a few miles then back home again.

She's 63

[Sailinghappy]

Wow! She should not be expecting lifts from you when you’ve just had a csection and you and your husband now have 3 kids to look after!! That really is selfish! Say no and relax 👍

[sweethope]

I suppose it depends what your relationship is like, like someone said, does she do a lot for you?

[advicepleasex]

She can afford a taxi that's the thing.
I told her to ask around first I've not had a call back yet so hopefully she got one.

[Shoobydooby09]

I would say how long would it take him 10-20 minutes - then we'd offer a lift. 30 -45 minutes- how much does she help you out? Over an hour I wouldn't without pre-arranging . It's not nice if she just expects lifts all the time. Perhaps have a word with her at a more appropriate time.

[picklemepopcorn]

Is it too late to tell her he's had a drink?

[Pinkyyy]

Usually I'd say if you can't be bothered then just don't do it but as she's been to a funeral and may be upset I'd say it would be compassionate to do it for her

[Whatsnewwithyou]

She's only 63? Unless she has serious health issues she needs to be a bit more independent! I was assuming from your post she must be much older than that and frail. Give her the number of a good taxi firm or if she has a smartphone and they operate in your area reach her to use uber!

[advicepleasex]

She's just turned up

[Thesnobbymiddleclassone]

Just tell her to get a taxi as you're busy.

[MintedLamb]

She's at yours so DH can take her the rest of the way? No way!

[gamerchick]

Sounds like we share a mother OP.

[Havaina]

Turned up at yours? I thought she is at a funeral

[woolduvet]

Say dh has had a drink

[ohfourfoxache]

She can get a taxi from yours then