To decline invitation to twin nephew's 2nd birthday party? It's the wknd after their birthday, at an activty place aimed at 3yrs and under which is nearly an hour away from where we live. My son and daughter are 11 and 7 and will not really have anything to do. And selfishly, my husband and I feel like we've 'done our duty' with crappy soft play places now our kids are that much older and really don't want spend our Sunday afternoon there! I am more keen to suggest we pop in to visit the boys on their actual birthday and do gifts etc then. But decline the actual party. SIL is lovely, but tends to assume all family members will always want to be involved with her kid's parties - so I'm concerned she'll be offended that we don't want to go and watch her children run around a sweaty soft play place with a load of their 2 year old friends. When I mentioned to my eldest that we might not go, she looked a bit worried because apparently SIL had already mentioned it to her and told her she'd be really useful to help run around and look after the little ones! Which knarked my husband off, that she'd already assumed we'd be going and that our kids will be there to help! Should we be honest and say why we don't want to go? If the shoe was on the other foot, we wouldn't be at all offended if all family members didn't want to come to our kid's parties - in fact I very much doubt we'd have even invited adult relatives with older kids/no kids to our child's party if it was in an activity type place. Would've been more of a polite mention, "btw, we're having Johnny's party at XYZ Play Place, you're very welcome to pop in but totally understand if you don't want to". But I think SIL may be more inclined to be offended than us as seems to view things differently. Or is it that actually we ABU by not wanting to go?
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