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Friend and I are both currently taking masters degrees, with exam period around now (first year of two year degree though).
Friend has been on and off complaining about a bad back since starting her degree, she fell down a few stairs at a workplace about 3 years ago - got taken to hospital (I think mainly to cover the company's ass as the fall wasn't that drastic) and apparently her back is still bad from that. She's been to the doctors at her university every now and then since September last year.
Conveniently, her back seems to get a whole lot worse when something is coming up that she doesn't want to do. Lately this has been exams - apparently she was up in agony the night before her first exam, ended up going to A&E and subsequently missed that exam, as well as all the others. Doctors sent her home within a few hours with some painkillers. At the time, she said she couldn't even sit up for longer than 15 minutes without being in incredible pain. She has now applied to sit the exams next year.
Thing is, she was telling me how unprepared she was for the exams and how she'd done no revision whatsoever. I find it quite suspicious that her back suddenly got unbearable the night before an exam which (in her own words) she was "definitely going to fail".
In the few weeks since then, she has completed a 4 hour countryside walk, taken up a temporary office job, and driven herself 180 miles across the country. Regularly goes drinking on nights out in killer heels.
With regards to doctors and treatment etc, as far as I know every time she's been to see a doctor, they send her home with some painkillers, gradually increasing in strength each time she goes. She had an MRI scan a few weeks ago but she didn't mention the results to me - she's quite dramatic so I assume she would have told me if something serious was wrong with her.
I'm no doctor and know absolutely nothing about back injuries but common sense is telling me that if something was actually wrong, they'd have kept her in, done a load of tests, and not just continued to give her painkillers - which to me, sounds like a way of getting her to shut up and leave.
AIBU to be seriously doubting her injury? It seems to crop up at the most convenient times for her. I think it bothers me more than it should because I've had my fair share of shit this year but always handed my work in on time, completed my exams etc. I've tried to fade her out of my life, but bumped into a mutual friend today who was horrified when I laughed upon being asked about this friend's 'terrible injury'.
I'll feel a bit shit if it turns out there is something wrong with her, but it really doesn't seem like they're going to find anything.
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equiva · 17/06/2018 18:48
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