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BIL’s dogs shitting in our garden AIBU?

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 15/04/2018 21:22

Myself, OH and our DC’s live on an ex farm (now just 2 barn conversions) OH’s ‘D’B and his OH live in the other barn conversion (inhereited from MIL).

We have a little bit of garden in front of our house and the DC’s have a slide, see saw and a small sandpit. BIL and his OH can only access their house via our garden and as a result, act as though they own it.

As far as we’re concerned, they the kings of the castle and we’re peasants. They’re incredibly stuck up, rude and obnoxious. BIL’s OH has openly admitted to hating children and I’m beginning to think that ours are no exception.

With the weather finally improving the DC’s wanted to play outside on their toys so I let them out and watched them from the kitchen window. 5 minutes later DD 2 comes in crying, she’s fallen over in dog shit. We had ‘talks’ over their dogs shitting in our garden a couple of years ago which seemed to resolve things (after a major tantrum off his GF) I cleaned DD up and walked round the garden and there a particular place that I hadn’t noticed with absolutely loads of the stuff.

Anyway, we were coming out of the house earlier and BIL walked past, DD shouts at him ‘ you need to pick your dog poo up.’ And he retaliated by saying ‘and you need to pick your sweet wrappers up that are outside your door.’ I’ve looked and looked and funnily enough can’t see any sweet wrappers. Reminded BIL that dog faeces can cause blindness and in relation to that, the (very) odd sweetie wrapper kind of pales into comparison. He kindly told me to fuck off.

We manage to avoid each other pretty well most of the time but every now and again something like this will read it’s head. Instead of taking it on the chin and doing something about it, they get defensive and it’s al tit for tat.

AIBU?

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Aprilmightbemynewname · 15/04/2018 21:26

Stake out.
And hose the ddog.
As a dog owner /lover - keeping your dc safe is more important than bil.

geekone · 15/04/2018 21:30

You need to build a way for them to get to their house and not pass through yours and then blank them forever

Accountant222 · 15/04/2018 21:37

What a nightmare living at close quarters to people like that

RafikiIsTheBest · 15/04/2018 21:38

He compared sweet wrappers in YOUR garden to him letting his dog shit in YOUR garden?
I'd get a camera up and see who you can report him to for letting his dog shit in your garden. That's just not on.

Iswallowtoothpaste · 15/04/2018 21:39

geekone we actually had a discussion about putting them an access in from another direction which would’ve been much more convenient and better for everyone. They refused to pay their half so consequently, nothing has been done.

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TheQueenOfWands · 15/04/2018 21:40

Do they actually have right of way?

Troels · 15/04/2018 21:40

We need a diagram so maybe we can make suggestions other than they are CF's and should pick up after the dog and not let it poo on the grass by kids toys.

Snausage · 15/04/2018 21:40

Can you create an 'easement' for them and fence off the rest of your garden?

Iswallowtoothpaste · 15/04/2018 21:41

She also had the gall to tell me earlier that on saturday night she fell over the DC’s space hopper that they hadn’t put away (in their own garden, how fucking dare they) when she came home drunk from a night out. It’s a pity she didn’t fall in HER dog’s shit!!!!!!!!!!

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Whisky2014 · 15/04/2018 21:42

Id shovel it all up at leave it at their door

Iswallowtoothpaste · 15/04/2018 21:45

Oh gosh, I don’t know about a diagram, don’t really want to take pictures in case I’m outed Wink

It’s hard to explain really, there’s a kinda raised, stone flag path that runs right past the front of our house and goes up to their garden wall and then a rubble path around the wall to their garden gate.

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TheQueenOfWands · 15/04/2018 21:48

Can't you just put a fence up either side of the raised path?

Waist height, just to give definition to the path and where they do and don't belong.

ChasedByBees · 15/04/2018 21:49

I would do everything I could to ensure they accessed their property through a different route so they don’t access your garden. They may have a right of way though. If it was paying and they didn’t pay their half, I think you’d be wise to just pay for it all if you can.

Fishface77 · 15/04/2018 21:50

Pick it up and throw it in to their garden.
Get fake cctv and tell them you’ll report them. Fucking knobbers.

flowerslemonade · 15/04/2018 21:55

Make an overland tunnel like those things in fields for growing crops (just a bit taller) out of clear plastic so they have to walk through that to get to their house. He sounds annoying - as if anyone wants SHIT on their garden grass.

Iswallowtoothpaste · 15/04/2018 22:34

Can’t really fence the raised path off as it’s literally right outside our front door.

We could pay for the whole access but there’s no guarantee that they would actually use it (probably wouldn’t just to piss us off tbh) they really are a pair of arseholes. Trying to compare seeet wrappers with dog shit?! Really?!

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TheQueenOfWands · 15/04/2018 22:37

Can you fence in some of it so you can have a smaller but shit free garden?

We really need a diagram...

eggcellent · 15/04/2018 22:37

Would it be worth seeing a solicitor and making it a more formal arrangement? No risk of damaging the relationship by the sounds of it!

lardymclardy · 15/04/2018 22:43

YANBU - dog shit is the worst. Leaving mess for anybody to step in is indefensible.

dancinfeet · 15/04/2018 23:32

can you throw it at their front door? coming home to a door covered in stinking brown splodges might make them realise how disgusting it is. Or pick it up and deposit it on their doorstep every single time. Either way, they are disgusting and should be picking up after their dogs.

sadiekate · 15/04/2018 23:40

It's illegal! Report them to the council without further ado!!
Do they worm their dog? Because if not, the parasite from the dog crap can now live in your soil for years.

AlexaAmbidextra · 15/04/2018 23:53

I’d collect it and deliver it to their front door every time it happens. Doesn’t sound as though your relationship with them could be much worse tbh.

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Chrys2017 · 15/04/2018 23:53

Can you get a motion-activated sprinkler (obviously turn it off when the children are playing in the garden). Dogs don't like getting soaked with cold water so after a few blasts of that he might learn to stay out of your garden.
And/or, you can get dog repellant sprays from Amazon etc that you spray on the grass/shrubs. They have to be regularly applied though so that approach could get expensive.
One thing you'll need to do is remove all the shit that is already there, as this acts as a reminder to the dog that it's okay to shit in that spot again.

IntelligentYetIndecisive · 15/04/2018 23:56

Perhaps pay for the other access and put a key lock on the gate?

Returnofthesmileybar · 15/04/2018 23:59

Yep, get yourself a pair of gloves and fire it over to their side, cheeky dirty fuckers

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