Up until April 2017 I was a proud single mother to two daughters. Aged 3 and 6 months. Then my life fell apart. I have suffered from mental illness since I was a teenager due to an incredibly abusive childhood. In April I had a decline in mental health and my children were taken in to care under Voluntary Care Orders. I got them back once my mental health stabilised. They were home for three weeks when I had another break down.
They were taken back into care and the social services sought an ICO. It was granted.
The judge said this wasn’t because I was an abusive parent far from it. Its that I need to get the support to get well. It quickly became clear to me that this wasn’t going to happen overnight and in fact that its most likely to take up to 18 months therapy to start the road to recovery. I learned that the social services were considering adoption for the girls. It quickly became clear to me that this was the best outcome for the girls to have a good stable life. I love my girls but, I just cant offer a life of stability at this moment in time and its not fair to keep them waiting. Therapy is going to difficult and gruelling.
A family has been found for the girls and they will likely begin introductions in May/ June.
Everyone I explain this story to tells me how strong I am. How brave and ultimately I am doing the right thing.
The thing is I am also getting comments like. “You never know what might happen in the future. You might find someone, respond to therapy and be able to be a mum again.”
I don’t want to be a parent again. I don’t want in the off chance that my girls choose to find me when they are older to wonder why I could get well for x and not them.
Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed when someone says that to me?
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darkriver198868 · 13/02/2018 15:02
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