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If you had a bone to pick with someone pregnant...

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FGSholdthedoor · 01/12/2017 09:56

and I mean due date in the next 2 days pregnant.

If you only just found something out that upset you or made you angry with the pregnant lady, would you attempt to question and confront her before or after she had her baby?

Just trying to see if I am BU about something...

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Afreshturkeyplease · 01/12/2017 09:57

Leave her well alone

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Rebeccaslicker · 01/12/2017 09:57

How big is the one, Op?

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LazySusan11 · 01/12/2017 09:57

I'd wait, gives you time to initially cool off and decide if it's worth confronting her after all and if she's about to have a baby her focus will be on that.

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Sparklingbrook · 01/12/2017 09:58

You need to tell us the something really.

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DanielCraigsUnderpants · 01/12/2017 09:58

Depends on the size and nature of the bone. Is it really really important in the scheme of things?

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Rebeccaslicker · 01/12/2017 09:58

*bone!

If you have to ask a question like that, when I suspect you know the answer, it must be bothering you.

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Dontletthebastardsgrindyoudown · 01/12/2017 09:58

Well of course it depends on what the issue is.

If it was something you've taken offence to but not illegal or dangerous etc I'd leave it for now.

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kissmethere · 01/12/2017 09:58

After. Even if it's something bad surely it can wait.

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OuchBollocks · 01/12/2017 09:58

Depends what it is really. Deliberately drove over my kitten yesterday yes. Accidentally broke a wine glass last month no. Pregnancy isn't a get out clause for being called out on truly shitty behaviour.

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genever · 01/12/2017 09:58

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Myheartbelongsto · 01/12/2017 09:58

Depends what your angry about.

Stealing my parking space, no shagging my boyfriend yes.

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Rarotonga · 01/12/2017 09:59

I'd leave it. At least for now.
If you need to get something off your chest write it down but don't give it to them.

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tinysparklyshoes · 01/12/2017 09:59

I don't understand this modern obsession with confronting people about everything anyway, so I would probably not do it either before or after.

What is the thing?

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ItsNachoCheese · 01/12/2017 10:00

Even if its a big thing shes due a baby in 2 days id wait til after shes gave birth

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TrojansAreSmegheads · 01/12/2017 10:02

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HerSymphonyAndSong · 01/12/2017 10:02

Depends on what it is. Is it something she needs to fix? If so, is it urgent or can it wait? Do you just need to express your anger? In which case it can definitely wait.

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MaidOfStars · 01/12/2017 10:03

Oh god, I can’t think of any bone big enough to confront an imminently due woman about.

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allthegoodusernameshavegone · 01/12/2017 10:04

Blimey what did she do that you even need to ask?

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Sparklingbrook · 01/12/2017 10:05

Is he's due in the next 2 days she could go another two weeks, can it wait that long?

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Sparklingbrook · 01/12/2017 10:05

*she's

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reallybadidea · 01/12/2017 10:06

If this a friend and you've found out that your DH is the father of her baby then crack on. Otherwise let it go.

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DingleBerries · 01/12/2017 10:06

Depends what it’s about I suppose.

Plus she could be pregnant for another two weeks.

So that’s nearly a month of waiting if you want to wait a while after the baby is born...

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ZigZagandDustin · 01/12/2017 10:07

I think it would be worse to pick a bone with a woman who's got breastmilk leaking everywhere, a vagina in pieces and held together with string and new baby hormones pouring out of her ears.

As long as you can have a respectful and controlled discussion about whatever it that is bothering you I'd do it now.

If you're going to lose your shit at her, there's never a good time to do that.

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Kentnurse2015 · 01/12/2017 10:08

Impossible to say without knowing the issue. Personally I don't think pregnant women should be treated as delicate flowers (even near their due date) if it something that really needs to be discussed. It would totally depend on the problem!

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peachgreen · 01/12/2017 10:08

Probably neither, tbh. But if I had to choose, it would be beforehand.

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