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If you had a bone to pick with someone pregnant...

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FGSholdthedoor Fri 01-Dec-17 09:56:06

and I mean due date in the next 2 days pregnant.

If you only just found something out that upset you or made you angry with the pregnant lady, would you attempt to question and confront her before or after she had her baby?

Just trying to see if I am BU about something...

Afreshturkeyplease Fri 01-Dec-17 09:57:08

Leave her well alone

Rebeccaslicker Fri 01-Dec-17 09:57:31

How big is the one, Op?

LazySusan11 Fri 01-Dec-17 09:57:35

I'd wait, gives you time to initially cool off and decide if it's worth confronting her after all and if she's about to have a baby her focus will be on that.

Sparklingbrook Fri 01-Dec-17 09:58:06

You need to tell us the something really.

DanielCraigsUnderpants Fri 01-Dec-17 09:58:07

Depends on the size and nature of the bone. Is it really really important in the scheme of things?

Rebeccaslicker Fri 01-Dec-17 09:58:12


If you have to ask a question like that, when I suspect you know the answer, it must be bothering you.

Dontletthebastardsgrindyoudown Fri 01-Dec-17 09:58:14

Well of course it depends on what the issue is.

If it was something you've taken offence to but not illegal or dangerous etc I'd leave it for now.

kissmethere Fri 01-Dec-17 09:58:15

After. Even if it's something bad surely it can wait.

OuchBollocks Fri 01-Dec-17 09:58:33

Depends what it is really. Deliberately drove over my kitten yesterday yes. Accidentally broke a wine glass last month no. Pregnancy isn't a get out clause for being called out on truly shitty behaviour.

genever Fri 01-Dec-17 09:58:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Myheartbelongsto Fri 01-Dec-17 09:58:35

Depends what your angry about.

Stealing my parking space, no shagging my boyfriend yes.

Rarotonga Fri 01-Dec-17 09:59:14

I'd leave it. At least for now.
If you need to get something off your chest write it down but don't give it to them.

tinysparklyshoes Fri 01-Dec-17 09:59:21

I don't understand this modern obsession with confronting people about everything anyway, so I would probably not do it either before or after.

What is the thing?

ItsNachoCheese Fri 01-Dec-17 10:00:29

Even if its a big thing shes due a baby in 2 days id wait til after shes gave birth

TrojansAreSmegheads Fri 01-Dec-17 10:02:28

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HerSymphonyAndSong Fri 01-Dec-17 10:02:37

Depends on what it is. Is it something she needs to fix? If so, is it urgent or can it wait? Do you just need to express your anger? In which case it can definitely wait.

MaidOfStars Fri 01-Dec-17 10:03:43

Oh god, I can’t think of any bone big enough to confront an imminently due woman about.

allthegoodusernameshavegone Fri 01-Dec-17 10:04:22

Blimey what did she do that you even need to ask?

Sparklingbrook Fri 01-Dec-17 10:05:03

Is he's due in the next 2 days she could go another two weeks, can it wait that long?

Sparklingbrook Fri 01-Dec-17 10:05:20


reallybadidea Fri 01-Dec-17 10:06:05

If this a friend and you've found out that your DH is the father of her baby then crack on. Otherwise let it go.

DingleBerries Fri 01-Dec-17 10:06:12

Depends what it’s about I suppose.

Plus she could be pregnant for another two weeks.

So that’s nearly a month of waiting if you want to wait a while after the baby is born...

ZigZagandDustin Fri 01-Dec-17 10:07:04

I think it would be worse to pick a bone with a woman who's got breastmilk leaking everywhere, a vagina in pieces and held together with string and new baby hormones pouring out of her ears.

As long as you can have a respectful and controlled discussion about whatever it that is bothering you I'd do it now.

If you're going to lose your shit at her, there's never a good time to do that.

Kentnurse2015 Fri 01-Dec-17 10:08:02

Impossible to say without knowing the issue. Personally I don't think pregnant women should be treated as delicate flowers (even near their due date) if it something that really needs to be discussed. It would totally depend on the problem!

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