My DD has come home from school a bit upset.
She says one of her very close friends has been told by her mother not to play with my child.
My daughter asked me to go speak with the teacher today and I said I thought it was maybe better if she dealt with the issue between her and her friend. I then saw my daughter go over to this girl in the playground before school started and this girl looked at her Mum (for permission I guess) before interacting with my daughter and the Mum shook her head and walked away. it was really sad tbh and I felt really crap for my DD.
AFAIK they have not fallen out, had any physical altercation, or had words of any sort. I asked my DD why she thought this had happened and she says she doesn't know.
I can think of two things that have happened the past school year (since Sept).
Incident one was that the other girl took something off her sister who is a year younger. She then lost it and tried to share the blame with some of the other girls who were with her (my daughter included) 'we were all playing with X's thing, so we all lost it' etc. I didnt think much at the time but perhaps shes went home and told her Mum that my daughter lost it instead?
The second thing is that there was a sports competition at school. My daughter has a non branded cardigan and this other girl has a one with a logo on. The teacher asked them to swap as my daughter was competing and so all the children from her school would have school logo cardis on. The other girl agreed initially and my daughter went to the competition, but then the other girl didnt want to wear my daughters cardigan at lunch and so was cold. I completely agree this was a stupid thing of the school to do (to swap their cardigans without asking the parents). The next day the mother came up to me and asked my why my daughter had taken her daughters cardigan. My daughter explained to her that the teacher had asked them to do it (and her daughter backed up the story) but the mother hasnt spoken to me since :-/
If I'm honest i have noticed that she doesn't stand with me in the playground anymore and hasn't for a while... but I have little to no interaction with her outside of school so I cant have done anything.
For the minute I have asked her to try to find someone else to play with over lunch and break, but her and this girl have quite a number of common lunch time and after school clubs so it will be difficult.
What should I do?
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School Mum has asked her child to not play with mine?
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poopsqueak · 31/10/2017 14:14
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