Hes 30 and still lives at home with his mum (who does everything for him). He comes to visit me every weekend. Friday night he turns up early and tell him I'm on my way out. He asks where even though he knows full well I go to karate on a Friday night. He said he'd come and watch. He then spends the 2 hours sat taking the piss. Instructor (reputation for being an absolute fucking maniac when riled) asks him what his problem is. DP says he thinks it's funny watching me fight. Instructor tells him never to under estimate a woman and suggests he take his shoes off and fights someone in the class if it's all so funny. DP refuses and says he wouldn't want to hurt anyone. Instructor laughs in his face. DP goes quiet then afterwards tells me instructor is a bell end and I should stop going. I tell him I wasn't entertaining that idea but told him he was a bastard for embarrassing me like that in front of my fellow club members. He says it over reacting. On the night instructor sends me a message saying he hoped I wasn't embarrassed by what had happened. He then adds "just thinking, you told me you wanted to lose weight, I can think of an excellent way you could lose 15 stone over night".
Anyway. Onwards to Saturday morning DP is still in bed snoring at 9am so I go off and do park run. Get home and he'd still in bed so I go swimming. 11.30 come home and he's still in bed but playing on his phone. He says "where have you been?? I haven't even had a coffee or any breakfast". I lose my shit and say "get off your fat fucking arse and make yourself some then". He snaps that I'm "bang out of order" and when he comes to see me I shouldn't fuck off out. I tell him that when he comes to see me he shouldn't be a lazy cunt and stay in bed all morning. He says he's entitled to a lie in when he works all week. I tell him to lie in at his own house then instead of stinking out my bedroom.
Saturday afternoon and he'd continuously nagging about food. On the night he orders himself a huge takeaway and sits there drinking beer and inhaling this shit food. I tell him I can't see a future as we're just too different. He accuses some me of having an affair with karate instructor (who happens to be 20 years older than me and married). Yesterday he text me asking what we're doing this weekend as he wants a lie in!!!! I text him back saying not to bother coming as I have karate Friday night, park run Saturday and gym Sunday and don't want to sit filling my body with alcohol and fat all weekend. He sent a message last night saying I have broken him. I'm fucking livid.
AIBU?
Breaking up with lazy bastard boyfriend
FatArseChair · 17/10/2017 14:08
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God OP, you must hate his poor mother! Not only does she have to live with him during the week, but you have now buggered up her weekends too! Yes I know, she is reaping what she has sown, but I still feel sorry for her! It must be awful to have to look at the lump she has spawned 7 days a week, I expect she had high hopes that your active lifestyle would somehow rub off on him and he would transform without her having to put the transformation in place herself, but now she realises she is stuck with him for ever, he will get grosser and lazier as the years go on and she will eventually be worn down to a shadow.
Let this be a warning to indulgent mothers everywhere.
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