Red, why red! Please help me!

[bellsandwhistles89]

The other half has decide to paint his 'man cave' RED, we have decided that he can have the final say on the room colour so the red is staying but can anyone suggest a way of making it less... well... red. So less of a AIBU and more of a help me with the redness! Or if anyone has a red success story then please share images/stories to get me through.

Please.

[ReggaetonLente]

Is he making himself a sex dungeon?

[Larrytheleprechaun]

Break it up with black and white pictures? Does he like it or deem it too red?

[LouHotel]

How red are we talking?

[Aquamarine1029]

Oh god. That will be dreadful and soooo tacky.

[Aquamarine1029]

Red accents would be SO much better. Maybe show him some examples?

[lostfrequencies]

I totally misunderstood the first part of the first sentence and was a little

[ILoveMillhousesDad]

Ooh not good. I remember my aunt painted her walls red and got a bit on the ceiling, so painted it red. We named it the murder room.

[blankpieceofpaper]

some questions:

do you get a, um, ladycave?

could he not have red as a feature wall?

what is the size of the mancave?

what is the red?

Also, the Red Room is a Gothic short story about fear and terror etc, that could be used to dissuade the palette?!

[hiphopcat]

What is his man cave?

The shed? The garage? A room in the house?

More info please.

[SheSaidNoFuckThat]

My teenage DSs have a red bedroom, what's wrong with it?!?! They have black carpet with it and white paintwork

[Willowy]

Grey with red accessories like a sofa or cushions of something possibly?

[Aquamarine1029]

What about a red accent wall?

[ErrolTheDragon]

Is he insisting on scarlet or pillar box red, or can you at least get it down to a wine red? Some of those can be perfectly fine.

[Willowy]

This kind of thing

[whitehorsesdonotlie]

Our dining room used to be painted wine red, and it was gorgeous. So it is possible... Why is he going for red? What's the room like? How big? Does it have enough light? Why are you against red?

[bridgetreilly]

If you get the right shade of red, it can be fine.
Something like this.

[bridgetreilly]

Sorry that link should go to this image.

[HolgerDanske]

Only one wall!! Really, I know accent walls are a bit meh these days, but a whole red room will be way too much.

[myrtleWilson]

we had a red living room - can't recall exact name but it was a F&B deep red and worked really well in 1900 house....

[EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard]

Start with why does he have a 'man cave' Hate that term by the way. What does he hope to achieve in it?

From www.colour-affects.co.uk/psychological-properties-of-colours

'RED. Physical
Positive: Physical courage, strength, warmth, energy, basic survival, 'fight or flight', stimulation, masculinity, excitement.
Negative: Defiance, aggression, visual impact, strain.

Being the longest wavelength, red is a powerful colour. Although not technically the most visible, it has the property of appearing to be nearer than it is and therefore it grabs our attention first. Hence its effectiveness in traffic lights the world over. Its effect is physical; it stimulates us and raises the pulse rate, giving the impression that time is passing faster than it is. It relates to the masculine principle and can activate the "fight or flight" instinct. Red is strong, and very basic. Pure red is the simplest colour, with no subtlety. It is stimulating and lively, very friendly. At the same time, it can be perceived as demanding and aggressive.'

It's going to make the space look smaller than it really is and promote aggressive feelings.

If he absolutely won't be swayed, can you swerve towards a more red-brown terracotta type shade? Or better a warm creamy beige background and then all the accessories in a browny brick red.

[MrsPestilence]

Red is a traditional colour for dining rooms and the such. Dark red not poppy or pillar box.

[QueenAmongstMen]

Just be glad you didn't get home from work one day to find DH had taken it upon himself to paint the dining room hot pink with a yellow feature wall....

My brother has got a red kitchen and it looks nice!!

Is his cave totally red with red accessories? Or just red walls? Bright red or blood red??

[NoCanoe]

Study room was red. Deep red. Lovely.
It now changed , but I miss it.

[SomewhatIdiosyncratic]

The DCs have a scarlet and white bedroom, two red, two white walls. Between light wood furniture and a neutral carpet, it's cosy but not overwhelming.

[Coastalcommand]

We have a red dining room, Victorian home use, all dark wood, chesterfields and a roaring fire. It looks great!