First time poster and I know it’s very cliche to post about mother in laws so please go easy!
I have a reasonable relationship with MIL, more that we quietly tolerate each other. I tried to reach out to her in the beginning by asking whether she wanted to go shopping etc, but she simply said ‘no’. If you met her, you’d think she was lovely, but She’s always been one for making passive aggressive comments. Coincidentally whenever my husband isn’t around .
. Her latest effort is to tell me I’m not ‘maternal’. She’s told me this several times. I initially took approach of just ignoring comment but then I asked her why she thought that. She just replied ‘you’re just not are you’ then changed the subject when my husband entered the room.
She’s said much worse in the past. I used to think that she was naive and didn’t realise how her comments came across, but after a bit realised that they were blatant digs. I always ignore it to keep the peace. I don’t see her a lot so it’s not such a big issue. She doesn’t make these comments every time I see her, just now and then. For some reason this comment has really annoyed me. I get the impression she disapproves of me having a career even though we don’t use childcare and both my husband and I are equal in how much we look after our sons. She often makes digs about me being at work.
I spoke to my husband about it who thinks I must have taken it the wrong way... along with all the other comments. Otherwise he’s fab, very supportive. Am I being over sensitive or if telling a mother she isn’t maternal, pretty offensive?
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Ostagazuzulum · 08/10/2017 14:46
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