I have name changed for this. Friend is not on MN afaik but dont want the remotest chance of getting recognised.
Basically friend invited me to stay with her as she has moved 4 months ago to another part of the UK.
Arranged trip last minute.
Was there 6 nights and 5 days but friend had told me to stay as long as I like and was suggesting 10 days.
I arrived mid afternoon the first day. Dropped my bags off and she drove straight to supermarket to shop as nothing in the house. Trolley packed to bursting with chocolates, sweets, alcohol, food, and her general household stuff.
Asked me to pay some of it. So I did. The alcohol, sweets, some of the food.
My issue is this. I was there 5 full days. 3 of the days public transport was used and I of course paid all my own fares. 2 of the days I was completely on my own and was out of house 9+ hours. 2 of the days involved long car journeys. Only one of the long car journeys was something I chose and the other day was something she wanted.
she over ruled a trip somewhere else I wanted to go which would have been by train hence paying my own fare. The trip she chose was bloody miles. Took over an hour to get there on motorways.
So in 5 days I only spent 2 days in the car with her. One of those days was something she wanted. So only one car day was something I chose.
The days I wasnt with her she had errands to run and was driving all over the place.
On the days I was with her and on the day I chose the trip she didnt get out of bed until really late, sleeping through alarms and then sitting around for 2 hours after showering and we didnt get on the road on my day trip until nearly 1pm and by the time we got there, there was virtually no time to do anything I had hoped to see. But I enjoyed was I did see and wasnt that bothered.
I was awake far earlier and was very tired at night. Not an early bird just naturally wake up early on holidays and eager to get going. Because she had laid in bed far later she was wanting to watch films late at night amd actually physically shook me awake a couple of times when I fell asleep on the sofa after midnight and berated me to watch the film with her.
Sorry this is long but I dont want to be accused of drip feeding.
So to try to cut a long story short. After buying all that food, and being asked to pay for alot of it, she suggested we leave with no breakfast as she had slept in so late that it would take too long and lets just get lunch there. The same happened with dinner. Out so late in the day that pn a long journey we had dinner out too and I paid all my own food outside of course.
On the days i was alone I was deposited with no breakfast early at the station so paid for breakfast out, lunch out, etc.
The problem I have is this, despite having one bowl of cereal, one cooked breakfast, and two cooked dinners in there in 6 nights, and spending 3 days out of 5 on public transport and one car day somewhere I didnt want to go and that she chose, the food I helped pay for for the week remains in her fridge / freezer & I ended up even paying for breakfast and dinner out most days on top of paying for food for her house, she flatly asked me for £40 petrol money as I left as she has used a tank and it has cost her a fortune. I was so taken aback I just agreed as Id had a nice time.
But out of 5 days, 3 were on public transport and I paid my own fares one of the car journeys was something I didnt want and only one was something I chose but were on the road so late I missed what Id wanted to see.
I hardly ate in that house and was charged for food by her and I had a shower every morning sure and then was out without being offered a cup of coffee in the morning paying for breakfast and coffee most days too.
I am a bit hurt for her asking me for petrol money on top of everything else when only one day was what I picked myself and the rest I paid train and bus fares.
Am I justified in being hurt or aibu?
AIBU?
Feel a bit hurt by friend
WasIAFreeloader · 24/08/2017 12:07
YANBU. 
What a delight she is. You should text her and ask when she'll be doing the transfer into your bank account for the food!
You only paid £30 and your moaning about it 
I was expecting you so say £60+ the way you keep going on about it. Your moaning she drank your juice you picked 
You were there what 5 days and you expect her to get up early every day and make you breakfast, why didn't you just make your own if she was still in bed, she's a friend so it's not bad manners to help yourself if she's still in bed.
If your out of the house it's hardly feasible to eat the food in the house for lunch/tea.
To be honest I think you sound way over the top. You used her petrol but cuz it was something she wanted to do your moaning about it, isn't friendships both ways, just because your visiting doesn't mean she has to do everything you want to do. You sound very childish moaning about a bit of food shopping left at her house
Justdontknow4321
One nasty sarcastic post in enough. You've said your piece. People like you just have to drive it in harder just a few more times 
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