to think this wasn't a lazy day?

[yaela123]

Like most people, we love a lazy pyjama day every so often but aibu to think this was actually quite an active day? Friend who I was chatting with said she missed having lazy days like this

BTW DH was working half the day before you flame him for not dong childcare

Drop DD3 off at swimming class, meanwhile take DDs 4 & 5 swimming in other pool

Take DD2 to a b-day party, hang around for an hour, then pick her up 2 hours later

Take DDs 3, 4 & 5 to the funfair at the local park for a bit, then meet friend for a coffee (with her kid)

Spend some time with DS who is revising for GCSEs he's finally realised having a secondary school teacher for a mum has benefits as well as being embarrassing

Take DD1 to the supermarket and do a shop. She love cooking so bought stuff for the big meal she was planning whilst I did a general shop

I thought I'd done quite a bit but my friend went on and on about me having a lazy day, which only made me wonder how busy she must be!

What counts as a lazy day for you?

[tornandhurt]

Lazy day may not have been meant in the context you've taken it. I suspect friend meant, spending a nice amount of time with DCs maybe?? it does sound like a nice day!

[PolarBearGoingSomewhere]

Wow! I think that sounds a lovely, but normal, averagely active day with several kids. A lazy day for us is staying in PJs until lunchtime and not leaving the house (barring perhaps a short walk to the sweet shop). We would play in the garden, watch a film, play board games etc so not a "lazy day" like it was pre-kids.

We do have friends who seem to never have a weekend without preplanned, usually ticketed, activities on both days. I would hate to have that lack of serendipity. It's lovely to have plenty of days where we can wake up and think "We'll check out a local craft fair" or "Why don't we go out for lunch?" Perhaps that's what your friend means - if they're a family who never have pottering about days.

[manueltowers]

It doesn't sound massively active, but it's not a lazy day either. Just sounds pretty normal for having five DC.

Lazy days for me mean moving to the sofa and refusing to move all day long!

[GeillisTheWitch]

YANBU. We had a lazy day on Saturday, we stayed at home, DD played with her toys, did some crafts, played the wii. I did pretty much sweet FA . We had a chip shop tea. That's a real lazy day. I'd count a day where I'd been swimming and to the funfair as quite busy.

[Lightship]

Just don't get involved in competitive busy-ness competitions. Go the other way, Claim you and your entire family are slugs and only climb out of bed by 3 pm on the average Saturday, and only then if there's something good on TV. Say you only wash them on special occasions.

[yaela123]

PolarBear Exactly!

With 6 kids its quite rare to not leave the house at all but this has reminded me how nice it is

[FatFacedDog]

That's what I would class as a hectic day! A lazy day to me is sitting in pyjamas and not leaving the house - maybe walking the dog if energy allows 😁

[BandeauSally]

Lazy does not involve swimming!

[Hermanfromguesswho]

I call it a lazy day when you don't have set plans and just do whatever you fancy that you enjoy.
Your day does sound like a nice day so that's probably what she meant!

[eddielizzard]

no that is not a lazy day. a lazy day for me would involve not doing much at all. come to think of it i haven't had a lazy day for decades... since childhood in fact.

[FeedTheSharkAndItWillBite]

Maybe not lazy.

But it does sound like a rather relaxed and just really lovely day with your DC?

[TisapityshesaGeordie]

You have six kids. I don't imagine you ever have a really lazy day.

Unless your friend has 7 or more kids, I'd have screeched something like that in her face, tbh.

[PuppyMonkey]

Swimming, birthday party, funfair AND shopping?

In what world is that relaxed?

[FanaticalFox]

Wow 6 kids. I have 1 DD who is 3 weeks old and I have not yet had a "lazy" day even if we've not left the house! Your friend is BU and obviously doesn't have 6 kids!

[FeedTheSharkAndItWillBite]

Puppy

Well, I guess it depends.

Swimming: I personally just love it. Pretty much everything (even herding cats) is better if it involves water

Birthday party: Well, I imagine (I may be wrong)that the OP chatted with other parents etc whilst the children played?

Meeting a friend: Sounds nice. If the children played with each other? Relaxed. If the children hate each other( or had an argument etc? Obviously not.)

Funfair: I'll give you that one. Lot of noise, lights, vomit inducing rides... Not relaxed.

Shopping with DD1 (maybe a young teen)? Unless there is an argument etc? Yes. Food shopping is relaxing imo.

[yaela123]

I'm glad you're all in the same universe as me

[Summerisdone]

YANBU
I would t call that a lazy day, maybe not overly active as it seems like most of what you did was more time consuming than active; those are the worst kind of days though IMO

My lazy days consist of staying in PJs all day and watching Disney Pixar movies with toddler DS. Playing with his trains and tracks and making 'lazy tea' I.e chips, beans and chicken nuggets or even better, calling for a takeaway if I've enough money.

[Titsywoo]

Sounds pretty busy to me. Not sure what most people would consider a busy day? Unless you mean a full day out? Lazy for me is hanging around at home doing very little and maybe going out for lunch.

[TheNaze73]

Sounds laid back & not too active but, it's not lazy

[NotAPuffin]

What's she doing these days that she's missing what she misguidedly thinks of as lazy days?

[Foureyesarebetterthantwo]

Why do people keep saying it's not too active? If you take the 6 children to 3/4 activities, surely that's fairly active in terms of driving around/going out? Swimming and funfair in one day?

To me, a lazy day would be PJs, possibly one afternoon activity (drop off at party), lots of Netflix.

[PuppyMonkey]

Its not a lazy day for me unless you

A. Get up after 10am
B. Do bugger all except watch Netflix and don't even get dressed.
C. Have leftovers for tea. Or better still crisps.
D. Down massive amounts of wine while continuing to watch Netflix.
E. Go to bed.

All of the above has to be with kids in the care of someone else btw.

[BlackeyedSusan]

oh my goodness that sounds like a full on day for us.

[AliceTown]

What does an active day look like to everyone else?

[Ceto]

I assume on top of all that you also produced meals for 8 people???

Having 6 children around is totally incompatible with having a lazy day unless you knock them all out or lock them in their rooms and refuse to feed them.