Just wondering about "family money" which gets talked about a lot on MN. When did this concept start in your relationship? DH and I are married but have no kids. We both have decent well paid jobs and earn a similar amount (I earn about 4/5 of what he does). We pay equal amounts into a joint account each month and the rest is our own money to do what we want with. Whichever of us happens to earn more at the time (DH at the moment, but it has been me in the past), pays for more treats e.g. meals out / holidays, but we never tally it up and take quite a relaxed approach to making sure things are "fair". Sometimes I will pay for a big treat item if I have just been paid, for example. This seems reasonable and fair to me. I would hate to live life in a very restricted way, having to conform to budgets etc., but I do appreciate that we are very fortunate to not have to do so currently. I like to plan and be prepared for how things might change when we have DC. Is that when "family money" becomes more important? I am likely to have a significant period of time off unpaid (or very low paid) and then will probably go back part time. I guess at some point we will have to stop contributing equally to the joint account. How did this work in your relationship and did you face any particular issues? I feel nervous about this because I have always been able to pay my way (50% or more) and when we have DC that is likely to change, which may create issues in our relationship. We live in a very expensive part of the country so mortgage is a massive outlay for us, and we have always paid this 50/50.
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