My DD, age 12, wants to buy her friend a pair of £50 trainers for her birthday and I think this is way too much money. I tend to think £10-£15 is more appropriate?
BUT my DD has loads of money (about £400) that she's earned from us for doing jobs (she does all the ironing, does all the looking after of the pets etc) or relatives have given her for birthdays/Xmas. She's not a materialistic person at all and never seems to want anything. Although to be fair, we do buy her what she wants within reason. We are fairly well off, but even so, there's never a huge amount she wants.
The friend lives with her Dad who is on benefits, so they have no money. This friend has never had any branded trainers, or any branded anything, I don't think, and my DD just wants to do something for her that will make her happy, and the giving of the present will make my DD happy as well. The poor girl seems to be plagued with health issues as well. I get the impression she has not had the happiest of childhoods so far.
It's more of a WWYD really - my initial thought is that it's far too much money to spend on a friend, and would the friend's Dad be embarrassed? But then, I think, it's her money, I should leave her to do what she wants with it, it doesn't affect me financially at all. I have managed to talk her down from the £100 trainers she was going to buy her friend, but she seems desperate to buy the £50 ones!
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DitheringDiva · 18/05/2017 20:17
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