AIBU to turn down £12k pay rise because I'm risk averse?

[BluebellGal]

As title says, AIBU to turn down a job with such a large pay rise because I've only been in my current job for a few months and I'm happy there? Have been head hunted for this new opportunity, same role just slightly different market (but one I have experience/interest in). Would be Manager (head hunter) said they wants to hire me and emailed today to ask why I've not applied yet. Should I just go for it, see what happens? I've met the senior staff before, so know a bit about new company.

For background, I moved to my new job after years of being in a dead end job going nowhere. I'm a FT working mum with a young family. Scared of jumping ship to find out I've made a mistake later (I'm breadwinner). We are managing fine on current salary, but the pay rise would allow our family to save for the first time since maternity leave. Jobs in my field not easy to come by close to where I live.

Job 1:
Big company, large hub office
High commuting costs
4 hours commuting per day (wfh regularly too)
Friendly staff
Good career prospects/ profitable company
Benefits standard for industry
Family friendly company

Job 2:
Large company, small office/division
Free commute (close to home)
£12k pay rise inc commuting savings
Friendly but seem disorganised (busy?)
Career prospects less clear but company's growing
Benefits standard for industry
Claim to be family friendly

AIBU to turn down job 2? Surely the time saved commuting and the money outweighs the risk of not liking the new company. I really don't know what to do and need some objective views, as the few people I've spoken to have just said "don't go for money" which I suppose is good advice, so they think I should stay in existing job as I'm happy there. I'm managing ok with the commute and looking after a young family, although it can be tough sometimes.

[witsender]

I would change!

[TestingTestingWonTooFree]

Ditching a 4 hour commute? That counts for an awful lot for me. (It's the stand out bit of your post which I haven't read v carefully)

[Honeyandfizz]

I'd switch for the same pay or even less just for the commute!

[lougle]

I would change, too. £12k and 4 hours per day saved is a huge pay rise.

[PhoenixJasmine]

You would be £12k + commuting cost + 4 hours A DAY better off. Job 1 would have to be something incredibly special to beat that surely?

(Is £12k not that much to you???)

[witsender]

Yes, the commute was the selling point for me.

[Expecting2017]

Live a little. Go for the new job. More money. Less commute. Winner winner x

[AnnasBella]

Job 2 obviously. Stealth boast?

[JellicleCat]

Ditch the commute. Just think what you could do with all that time, plus you will be less tired from travelling.

[NoArmaniNoPunani]

I'd change for the commute alone

[Foureyesarebetterthantwo]

The best thing I ever did was drop my commute right down, and I wasn't even doing 4 hours a day.

I'd take the closer job without the pay rise!

[stopfuckingshoutingatme]

Have you even been for an interview ? As correct me
But they haven't actually offered it yet

[BluebellGal]

Just to clarify it's 4 hours total each day, door to door (not each way!). I can get that down to 3.5 hours on a good day

[Jenijena]

Ditch the commute!

[SquinkiesRule]

I'd go with job 2.
I switched for a 4k increase and a 5 minute commute. Love it.
Only downside is no sick pay, so I have to buy some sick leave insurance. Haven't done yet, not sure if it's worth it need to talk it over with the family.

[BikeRunSki]

I'd do it for the commute; the pay rise would be a bonus.

[innitprawn]

Job 2!! Sounds like an opportunity to me!

[Almostthere15]

Like others, the commute would do it for me. It would massively improve your quality of life wouldn't it? Is there still scope to work at home in job 2 though, as it's a huge flexibility

[Pigface1]

Have to agree with other posters that losing the commute would actually be the biggest draw for me (more than the money). Taking into account the saving on commuting and the pay rise you'd surely be substantially better off.

However there are other considerations which really only you are in a position to weigh up. Does the new place have a good reputation? Will it look good on your CV? Is moving about frequently frowned upon in your industry (it really is in mine but I'm in quite a backward, late adopting industry)? Can you do any research for 'red flags' - do they have a high staff turnover for example?

[CheshireSplat]

I'm soul searching about jobs too at the moment. I agree don't just go for money, but:

Much shorter commute - clearly a plus;
Disorganised - I quite like the sound of because I think I could make a big difference as I'm anal

So add those 2 things to a big payrise (minus tax of course) it looks well worth considering.

Career prospects may be an issue - so what are your ultimate career prospects. Would the £12k be achievable staying where you are? Would you be sidelined in a branch-type office? What do you ultimately want? How much is 12k in take home pay?

[MyPatronusIsAUnicorn]

Honestly, i think you stupid for not jumping at the chance of the new job. Given you work full time and have a 4 hour commute with young children, surely the chance to see them more must be a good thing.

[darkhorse85]

Do it 100%. Cutting down the commute will change your life (honestly).

[SunEgg]

I'd do it for commute too, pay rise is a huge bonus! Plus you have a young family, no brainer really.

[NaomiCole]

Be brave OP! :-)

[MaximumVolume]

Oh my word, get the new job! Even if you move again you'll be on the higher salary which justifies a higher salary at the next job. I got a £6k pay rise, hated the job & stayed only 6 months + 3 months notice period & the next job after that was another £8k payrise. So £14k in a year, which would have been harder in one step.

Plus, commute of four hours is so tough. Getting rid of that would be priceless!