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AIBU to turn down £12k pay rise because I'm risk averse?

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BluebellGal Wed 17-May-17 20:24:13

As title says, AIBU to turn down a job with such a large pay rise because I've only been in my current job for a few months and I'm happy there? Have been head hunted for this new opportunity, same role just slightly different market (but one I have experience/interest in). Would be Manager (head hunter) said they wants to hire me and emailed today to ask why I've not applied yet. Should I just go for it, see what happens? I've met the senior staff before, so know a bit about new company.

For background, I moved to my new job after years of being in a dead end job going nowhere. I'm a FT working mum with a young family. Scared of jumping ship to find out I've made a mistake later (I'm breadwinner). We are managing fine on current salary, but the pay rise would allow our family to save for the first time since maternity leave. Jobs in my field not easy to come by close to where I live.

Job 1:
Big company, large hub office
High commuting costs
4 hours commuting per day (wfh regularly too)
Friendly staff
Good career prospects/ profitable company
Benefits standard for industry
Family friendly company

Job 2:
Large company, small office/division
Free commute (close to home)
£12k pay rise inc commuting savings
Friendly but seem disorganised (busy?)
Career prospects less clear but company's growing
Benefits standard for industry
Claim to be family friendly

AIBU to turn down job 2? Surely the time saved commuting and the money outweighs the risk of not liking the new company. I really don't know what to do and need some objective views, as the few people I've spoken to have just said "don't go for money" which I suppose is good advice, so they think I should stay in existing job as I'm happy there. I'm managing ok with the commute and looking after a young family, although it can be tough sometimes.

witsender Wed 17-May-17 20:27:18

I would change!

TestingTestingWonTooFree Wed 17-May-17 20:27:49

Ditching a 4 hour commute? That counts for an awful lot for me. (It's the stand out bit of your post which I haven't read v carefully)

Honeyandfizz Wed 17-May-17 20:29:45

I'd switch for the same pay or even less just for the commute!

lougle Wed 17-May-17 20:30:06

I would change, too. £12k and 4 hours per day saved is a huge pay rise.

PhoenixJasmine Wed 17-May-17 20:30:06

You would be £12k + commuting cost + 4 hours A DAY better off. Job 1 would have to be something incredibly special to beat that surely?

(Is £12k not that much to you???)

witsender Wed 17-May-17 20:30:28

Yes, the commute was the selling point for me.

Expecting2017 Wed 17-May-17 20:31:16

Live a little. Go for the new job. More money. Less commute. Winner winner x

AnnasBella Wed 17-May-17 20:31:52

Job 2 obviously. Stealth boast?

JellicleCat Wed 17-May-17 20:32:25

Ditch the commute. Just think what you could do with all that time, plus you will be less tired from travelling.

NoArmaniNoPunani Wed 17-May-17 20:32:45

I'd change for the commute alone

Foureyesarebetterthantwo Wed 17-May-17 20:33:22

The best thing I ever did was drop my commute right down, and I wasn't even doing 4 hours a day.

I'd take the closer job without the pay rise!

stopfuckingshoutingatme Wed 17-May-17 20:33:26

Have you even been for an interview ? As correct me
But they haven't actually offered it yet confused

BluebellGal Wed 17-May-17 20:33:46

Just to clarify it's 4 hours total each day, door to door (not each way!). I can get that down to 3.5 hours on a good day

Jenijena Wed 17-May-17 20:33:50

Ditch the commute!

SquinkiesRule Wed 17-May-17 20:34:36

I'd go with job 2.
I switched for a 4k increase and a 5 minute commute. Love it.
Only downside is no sick pay, so I have to buy some sick leave insurance. Haven't done yet, not sure if it's worth it need to talk it over with the family.

BikeRunSki Wed 17-May-17 20:34:39

I'd do it for the commute; the pay rise would be a bonus.

innitprawn Wed 17-May-17 20:35:15

Job 2!! Sounds like an opportunity to me!

Almostthere15 Wed 17-May-17 20:35:27

Like others, the commute would do it for me. It would massively improve your quality of life wouldn't it? Is there still scope to work at home in job 2 though, as it's a huge flexibility

Pigface1 Wed 17-May-17 20:35:47

Have to agree with other posters that losing the commute would actually be the biggest draw for me (more than the money). Taking into account the saving on commuting and the pay rise you'd surely be substantially better off.

However there are other considerations which really only you are in a position to weigh up. Does the new place have a good reputation? Will it look good on your CV? Is moving about frequently frowned upon in your industry (it really is in mine but I'm in quite a backward, late adopting industry)? Can you do any research for 'red flags' - do they have a high staff turnover for example?

CheshireSplat Wed 17-May-17 20:35:56

I'm soul searching about jobs too at the moment. I agree don't just go for money, but:

Much shorter commute - clearly a plus;
Disorganised - I quite like the sound of because I think I could make a big difference as I'm anal

So add those 2 things to a big payrise (minus tax of course) it looks well worth considering.

Career prospects may be an issue - so what are your ultimate career prospects. Would the £12k be achievable staying where you are? Would you be sidelined in a branch-type office? What do you ultimately want? How much is 12k in take home pay?

MyPatronusIsAUnicorn Wed 17-May-17 20:36:00

Honestly, i think you stupid for not jumping at the chance of the new job. Given you work full time and have a 4 hour commute with young children, surely the chance to see them more must be a good thing.

darkhorse85 Wed 17-May-17 20:36:14

Do it 100%. Cutting down the commute will change your life (honestly).

SunEgg Wed 17-May-17 20:36:24

I'd do it for commute too, pay rise is a huge bonus! Plus you have a young family, no brainer really.

NaomiCole Wed 17-May-17 20:36:43

Be brave OP! :-)

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