AIBU to want an extension to escape snoring OH

[Ginlinessisnexttogodliness]

Night after night. It's driving me mad. He's gone down on the sofa bed. We need a five bedroomed house as this is intolerable. Plus expecting our third child. Two extra rooms needed. Nobody sleeps well apart from DS who is a dream sleeper. DD wakes frequently and I can't get sleep thanks to puffing billy next to me so I wake him. No chance of putting a baby in with DD as a pin dropping sets her radar off. I don't want to risk DS being woken up with her nighttime sing songs and cot pogoing.

Who else suffers this.
What can I do?

Please tell me you ended up,with a snazzy bedroom for guests that really you sneak into every night and whisper "Thank Christ for you, guest bedroom"

I can't persuade him to try the "old fart strips" and he isn't overweight just very tired and a heavy sleeper.

I feel awful but am so sleep deprived I'm climbing the walls. I've tried going to bed before him but he comes in and wakes me up, prattling about with the sliding wardrobe or slamming windows closed as he lies to be hermetically sealed to sleep. Aaaaarrrgh the incompatibility of it all!

He's stormed out calling me a fucking bitch....oops

[19lottie82]

Sounds a bit bizarre but send him to the dentist and see if they can assist making a mouth guard to hold his jaw in place while he sleeps to reduce the snoring. A custom one is required, a cheap one won't help.

PS WTF are fart strips???

[avamiah]

Earplugs worked for me but good ones.

[Ginlinessisnexttogodliness]

Old fart strips are those breathe right nasal strips. 😂 that's what he calls them.

Might suggest he try the dentist as am at end of my tether.

Can't use ear plugs due to wakeful toddler.

[Cupcakegirl13]

Yes OP I feel your pain I'm lying awake listening to my DH snore away , every night and I'm pregnant with no 3 too ! I'm going insane with sleep deprivation and that's before I have a newborn ! I have no idea what the answer is , but it's defo having an affect on my current feelings towards him I feel so resentful that is he is fast asleep and I rarely seem to be

[Ginlinessisnexttogodliness]

Oh cupcake boo hoo for you too!!! Isn't it nice to know we're not alone in this irritation at stupid o'clock.

How pregnant are you? I'm only just coming to end of first trimester and feeling horrific. Exacerbated by snoregate

It's just awful isn't it. Just been up for an hour with teething daughter screaming the house down and he's snored through the lot. I've recorded his cacophony on the iPad and intend to show him in the morning.

It's not a battle it's a war..........

[Dons1975]

Same situ here!! The bastard denies it is him when I give him a nudge trying to say it's my snoring that's waking me up. not sure how much more I can take and there is no where else for me to go

[Ginlinessisnexttogodliness]

Dons I'm now doing some online shopping for anti snoring products.

If I come across any that look particularly macabre and ergo hugely satisfying I'll post links for you and cupcake.

Mine is still puttering away downstairs. Not even the rain music on YouTube is drowning it out. I am on the verge of storming down there and hurling a glass of water over him. Only refraining from it because he'd slope back up here and be next to me then.

[Ginlinessisnexttogodliness]

www.stressnomore.co.uk/anti-snore-chin-strap-11272.html?gclid=CN39ouLrrNMCFQs8Gwod95MN_Q


Didn't take long. I'm not sure I'd be able to convince him this was a good idea. It's like a kinky rugby head and ear guard.
Scroll down to reviews. I especially love good old "Beefy" Tom's review 🙈

[babymouse]

Has he gone to a sleep clinic to rule out sleep apnea? My husband has it and it's due to the shape of his neck and jaw, nothing to do with his weight. When he got his CPAP I had my first good night sleep in years! I hadn't realised how much his snoring was affecting me until then. It took me years to convince him to go to a GP and even now he admits he should have gone sooner. I hope you are able to sort out, snoring is awful and really wearing!

[Emily7708]

I'd suggest a hot poker up his backside! I can't believe he is refusing to try strips and is swearing at you and stomping around after you dare to complain about being kept awake! I would recommend Snoreeze spray, if that's not too old fart for him to bother with. Plus I really recommend Ashton and Parsons powders for your DD's teething.

snoreeze.com/products/snoreeze-throat-spray/#

www.lloydspharmacy.com/en/ashton-amp-parsons-teething-powders

[thisagain]

Same here. I've mostly overcome it with ear plugs, a freestanding air conditioning unit (hose goes out window) and intermittently making him turn back over on to his right side. Sounds bizarre I know. The sound of the air conditioning unit drowns out the sound of his snoring!

[Emily7708]

It just reminded me of an old colleague of mine whose DH was an awful snorer but always refused to do anything about it. She mocked up a fake article saying that heavy snoring could eventually lead to erectile dysfunction problems. He was at the doctors the next morning!

[ThatIsNachoCheese]

I'm awake now due to DH's snoring. Have earplugs in and can still hear him.
Can anyone recommend good earplugs for me to try next?
Disclaimer: also awake because of pain, but the snoring really really doesn't help.

[Mermaid36]

I'm up feeding our twins, but his snoring gives me the rage.
I just kick/poke/jab him until he turns over. I have been known to hit him on the head with a pillow or a baby blanket.

[FritzDonovan]

Same here. I actually get woken up more times a night than I did when the kids were babies. Unless I'm unconscious due to alcohol consumption. Seriously thinking about a spare bed for the tiny play room...

[sailorcherries]

I'm currently awake (although not because of snoring) but my OH used to suffer terribly from snoring as a teenager. He stayed in the attic conversion and snored so loud you could hear it two floors down in the living room, with the door closed!

His was something to do with his tonsils and adenoids as they hadn't shrunk, developing sleep apnea as a result. He had both removed and I have never heard him snore since we've been together (not a stealth boast to all those sleep deprived out there!). It might seem excessive but it is worthwhile checking out as severe snoring can be signs of an underlying issue.

[ShowMePotatoSalad]

DH snores and it's a horrible HORRIBLE guttural, snotty, nasal, irritating sound. It's not a really deep or loud snore, it's just frigging irritating. Weirdly, if I just say "you're snoring!" in a firm voice as he sleeps, it completely stops. I think it's because he unconsciously realises what I'm saying and moves position. Haven't any advice really as not sure that would work for you and I'm sure you already tried it.

BTW if my DH called me a fucking bitch he'd be snoring on the curb.

[FairytalesAreBullshit]

You'd be shocked but partners sleeping apart is more common than you think.

I know people who have added essentially another master bedroom, the decent sized hobby room, not big enough for a double, but what child needs a double. You both get the luxury of your own bathroom sans children. So if your thing is having nice baths, you design it so you have the ultimate bathroom / dressing area.

Space underneath usually acts to extend the kitchen, or if the kitchen is fine, a playroom for the children opening into a family room. Assuming you're thinking of maybe an L-shape extrension.

If you drew us a rough plan of upstairs and downstairs, or if you can find your old floor plan on Right Move, I could go to town drawing some suggestions.

If you give a rough idea of what you want it to incorporate, plus land spare either side of house.

[FairytalesAreBullshit]

I might do some random drawings anyway, or if you've a newish house you could give the model.

Most people have bedside drawers each side of bed, but as a treat, get built in sections where you can have wardrobe poles and drawers easy, if you couldn't afford bespoke fitted furniture.

I don't know why, but even though I'm seldom upstairs, for me adults having their own bathroom or en-suite is important. You can get a mini bathroom in easy enough.

[19lottie82]

I always think that when people who say they use ear plugs, then the snoring can't really be that bad..... my OH snores like a wilderbeast and earplugs wouldn't even make a dent in drowning it out (inc the posh silicone ones)!

[HoneyDragon]

Separate bedrooms here

[helpmesusan]

I have been there with former DP and it sucks BIG time. I used to end up in spare room most nights.

If you can afford an extension or something, do it!

[busyboysmum]

We've also got separate rooms. Works well for us. We've just been in holiday where we were sharing 2 rooms. I ended up with 2/3 kids in with me on mattresses on the floor as his snoring was driving everyone mad.

[TheUpsideDown]

My DHs snoring has brought me to the brink of wanting to leave him. Its caused so many rows. He's been told he's overweight but loves his food too much to give a shit. He's tried strips but he found them annoying apparently. He was given a nasal spray by the GP, but it does sweet fuck all. He did see an ENT specialist who suggested an op, but he doesn't want to go that far. He refuses to wear those chin straps because in his words he'll "look a fucking twat in that!"

So I insisted on buying DS a bunk bed anf I now sleep on the bottom bunk 95% of nights. He doesn't like that we're sleeping apart but I couldn't take it any more. It was either that or divorce!

I now only sleep in my own bed when DH works away.... I secretly jump for joy in my head when DH announces he will have to work away. I genuinely become excited at the thought of a night (or 2 if Im super lucky!) in my own bed in silent bliss!

I feel your pain. Get the extension!

[outabout]

When I snore I hate people poking me to wake me up!
Yes a serious problem and sleeping apart is probably the best answer, after checks for sleep apnea and other possibilities. Bad sleep for anyone can be dangerous. Although men tend to snore earlier in life, women do it too so may well come to get you in a while.
There are upsides to sleeping apart, wife not moaning about being too hot and wriggling around for example.