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AIBU?

To think that a name change could change my life?

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floraeasy · 03/04/2017 14:01

I've been thinking about this - on and off - for a few years now.

My DH thinks it's daft, but would support me. I'm into some woo stuff, so should confess that first up.

I've been reading the Kabalarian Philosophy site and I am very tempted.

My first name has always bothered me. Much less so now than when I was a child, but part of me doesn't see why I should just accept it either.

I ran my first name through their free assessment page and it is not considered auspicious, whereas my husband's is. The stuff they say about what my name means for my life rings true as that has been my experience.

For a fee they will give me 30 to 50 name suggestions. I hope I like one of them though! It wouldn't be like just choosing any old name I like.

Has anyone changed their name and felt happier and more successful as a result? What problems if any did you encounter?

Thanks all!

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Trills · 03/04/2017 14:03

If you want to change your name, do it.

Don't give money to anyone who promises you that their advice on what to change your name to will make you happier.

AnathemaPulsifer · 03/04/2017 14:04

Umm. Gosh. Couldn't you just think of a few names you like and run them through their free assessment page? Must admit it sounds like a crock of shit, but then I'm not the slightest bit woo

Trills · 03/04/2017 14:04

The stuff they say about what my name means for my life rings true as that has been my experience.

It's very easy to say things that sound specific while actually being very general. Human brains are pattern-making machines. I don't suppose they used any of these statements exactly, but I bet some of them seem familiar.

floraeasy · 03/04/2017 14:05

Sorry, I should have added in my OP that this site analyses numerology and it hangs on your birth date and stuff like that too. All gets factored in.

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Honeybee79 · 03/04/2017 14:05

If you want to change your name, then do it, but don't change it to something that some random website suggests for a fee!

Trills · 03/04/2017 14:06

I would be tempted to run the same names through the "free assessment page" from different computers to see if the same results came up every time

PumpkinPie2016 · 03/04/2017 14:07

I'm not into woo stuff so can't help with that but there's no reason you can't change your name if you don't like yours.

You can either be known as another name but use your current one as your legal name or change your name legally.

Not sure about more successful but I think you can feel more confident if you like your name.

QuestionableMouse · 03/04/2017 14:07

I'll give you a list of 100 names for a fiver.

The phrase more money than sense springs to mind.

TiredMumToTwo · 03/04/2017 14:08

If you want to change your name then do it but it won't change you or make you more successful, only you can do that.

TeenAndTween · 03/04/2017 14:09

If you want to change your name, do it.
If it makes you happy to pay a bunch of charlatans someone money to suggest names then do it.
But why not just hang around the baby name threads instead for free?

gleam · 03/04/2017 14:09

Well I've just run my name through their analyser and it doesn't ring true at all.

Can't you just pick a name that has good associations for you?

gleam · 03/04/2017 14:10

Ha, #10 on that Barnum list covers a lot!

ThePiglet59 · 03/04/2017 14:32

Unless your first name is Flatulensa or something I doubt that it has made much difference to how your life has gone.
We had a friend who changed her name from Sharon to Sophie, as she thought that Sharon was common and held her back.
She was a s much of a tit as Sophie as she had been as Sharon.
Perhaps she should have changed her star sign instead?

canadamouse · 03/04/2017 14:33

I changed mine.

It really did bring nothing but positive changes, although part of me still resents the fact I had to but the relief of being able to introduce myself without any drama was immense.

IveAlreadyPaid · 03/04/2017 14:37

My name is faulty apparently

TiredMumToTwo · 03/04/2017 14:48

Love this, do you think the kabalah website owners are wondering why they've had a spike in hits?! They urge you to call before choosing a baby name - I bet it's a premium rate number, shocking money making schemes!!

blackteasplease · 03/04/2017 14:49

I put my name in and thought, omg that's exactly like me. Then I put exh's in and thought "omg that's the exact opposite of him!" (it really was though)

Then I put ds' in and it was exactly the same as mine...

I smell a rat there.

WicksEnd · 03/04/2017 14:58

Honestly OP do you really think they'll have a different meaning for every different name? Of course they won't, they churn out standard descriptions.
By all means change your name but choose it yourself, don't pay!

ClaudiaWankleman · 03/04/2017 14:58

I put my name through. It was completely wrong.

I should be working in science and I apparently have difficulties verbalising my inner emotions.

No. I work in professional services and was hired for my communications skills especially.

I also never have the extreme mood swings I am predicted to have.

OP your lot will never change based on a name, look for different strategies.

rizlett · 03/04/2017 15:03

First of all Flora's a lovely name! ;)

I changed my name - no need even to do it by deed poll - you are entitled to change it completely free of charge - and it has made a huge difference to me.

Even if you do pay to see the sites 30-50 offerings you still don't have to change it unless there is something you really like, do you?

Whilst I don't appear to have the same belief system as you do - if something is likely to bring you joy - go for it. :D

pluck · 03/04/2017 15:06

I have a pseudonym which I love, so names are important. However (and this is a bit beside the point BUT important in life), please don't put lots of personal details into random online forms! Big Data collection is getting all this immensely valuable psychological profiling information for free, and it's being used to target political advertising: Revealed: how US billionaire helped to back Brexit

gu.com/p/62759

reallyanotherone · 03/04/2017 15:06

I think you may have a point.

I may change mine to Peter or David. I'm willing to bet i'll get more interviews for job applications and different responses to emails.

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VestalVirgin · 03/04/2017 15:07

If you want to change your name, fine, but change it to something you like, not something this page suggests.

A name can have an effect on your life, but that's nothing to do with supernatural phenomenons (if a name really brought bad luck to everyone who has it, wouldn't it have died out pretty soon?), but because people might be prejudiced against certain names.

If you think your name could have held you back because there's prejudice against it, then look at people who work in the jobs you would like to work in, and have the friends you would like to have, and then pick a name that is common among that kind of people. (At your age. Do not pick a popular baby name.)

Couldn't you just think of a few names you like and run them through their free assessment page?

That seems like a good compromise between common sense and desire to have an "auspicious" name.

VestalVirgin · 03/04/2017 15:09

I may change mine to Peter or David. I'm willing to bet i'll get more interviews for job applications and different responses to emails.

I am sure you will, but if you are actually female, that might not be so useful in the long run.

DexyRunner · 03/04/2017 15:16

I changed my name, to a shorting that I use and have done for years of my horrible dated 70's name.

If it's hinged on your birthdate surely it will just give you a list of the most popular from that time. Waste of money imo.

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