So my brother lives many hours' drive away in Scotland. He works a job which requires night shifts, weekends etc. He is married and 2 DC (8 and 10). We (me, DH and 3 DC) are visiting Scotland for another reason and have something organised during the week so try to take the chance to see him and his family (bearing in mind we haven't seen each other since Xmas 2015). We only have the option of two possible weekends so we suggest a visit either at the beginning or the end of the week we are visiting.
Brother says great, I will arrange shifts etc and have time to see you on X weekend. Come and stay with us (they do have large house). So we arrange plans around that weekend being with brother.
Fast forward and two days before we head off, I message sister-in-law to ask if there is anything we should bring etc and we hope to arrive about 5pm on the Friday. SIL replies that they will not be home as DB is working Friday night shift but is off rest of weekend. She and the DC have sports club and not home until 8pm. They have no food in so we will have to manage with a sandwich.
No problems I say, we will arrive 8:30pm and will have a meal before we arrive so we don't need food Friday night.
SIL then replies - oh by the way we will need you out of the house on Saturday morning as she is working from home and has customers coming to the house and it would be best if everyone out of the way. Can we be up and "go for a walk or something" at about 8:30am till 11:30am. Brother will be asleep and their 2 DC will be going to sports club competition at 8am getting lift from friend.
At this point I think WTF? Speak to DH and he says he is not up for that and we will stay in local hotel for a night and come to them lunchtime Saturday.
So I message back saying change of plan we will come lunchtime Saturday. Which we do. Hardly any food in house so we all eat out and of course we offer to pay. No beds made for us or DC so we make our own. But we get on with it no problem and fairly enjoyable evening. Sunday morning their DC have yet another sports club so we decide to cut our losses and head off as long journey ahead.
I was a bit disappointed to be honest but never mind I think we have done our best and made an effort and a shame we didn't get to see very much of DB and his DC but was nice to catch up on the Saturday evening.
Just spoken to my Mum on the phone and she is saying how upset my DB is about how we wouldn't put ourselves out to stay on the Friday night and how he couldn't believe we would rather stay in hotel and how rude we were for doing that. Was it rude?
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Rude guest or rude host?
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njfhow · 28/03/2017 18:24
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