Long one. My DP divorced nearly ten years ago. DF left my mum for the OW. DM was understandably hurt and angry. She approached and shouted at the OW more than once, who then got a restraining order against DM. DM is a gp and nearly lost her career. Lots of difficulty ensued, DM ended up quite unwell and struggled for a number of years.
Fast forward ten years, I have maintained a relationship with both of them and enjoy their company. DF lives in a lovely part of the country that is family friendly and a popular tourist destination. As yet, we have never visited them as I know it would upset my mother deeply. DH and I have 2 YO twins and a 4 month old baby. We can't cope going away with the kids and would like to enjoy a visit to DF this summer. Equally we couldn't afford to rent somewhere nearby due to the tourist premium. WWYD. DM will go nuts if we visit but I feel it is time?
Ps I should add, I'm approaching 40. I realise this post makes me sound like in a teenager.
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Calvinlookingforhobbs · 27/03/2017 22:43
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