Having had a discussion recently that ended with DH telling me that unless both of us were earning a decent wage, we would never really have the lifestyle that I want.
Nothing drastic comes to mind for me. I'd like to buy a 3 bed house one day. I'd like another child and would love a holiday every few years.
Not spectacular, but nice enough life I think.
He thinks his 50k a year income isnt enough, and that the 8k I make a year isn't enough to make a difference. Instead of arguing the point that for a family of 3 this should be more than enough I occupy myself with finding a new job.
This new job is £20k per year. I've been offered it and they'd like me to start Monday if I can.
Now it's not really ok for me to accept this role, as i "have to think about the good of the family"
Wrap around childcare doesn't really work as every other week i wouldn't be getting home until 7pm. And H can't guarantee he will be home and able to collect DD.
It just feels like I can't win.
Do all women feel this way? Like they need to be home to deal with the children? But also have to take on a certain responsibility for earning a "decent" amount?
Maybe I'm being precious, but I just feel it's a bit unfair.
I can't make much more than 8k a year and be there for school drop off/pick up. Be there on school hols plus have the house in order.
Tell me ladies, is this normal?
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To feel like women can't genuinely win?
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Dumbo412 · 16/03/2017 20:12
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