So my grandfather passed away a week ago and it has devastated me. As I'm currently on mat leave with 10 week.old DD I've been staying with my folks since which is not local to home (few hours away). I needed to be close to family as I was really close to him. DD is with me and DH dropped us off as soon as I found out news which was great. I had planned to spend a few days with his folks, but that all changed. DH stayed 1 night with me and then rushed back to his mums next morning as apparently he had things to do. What more important than being there for your wife?? The jobs were dropping his sis off, which his dad could have done and then entertaining visitors. Great. He then was back at work and I stayed at folks, but called and expected me to go back to stay with in-laws as planned. I told him he was having a fucking laugh and I was staying put for a few weeks as that's where I needed to be. He laid on guilt trip of keeping dd from him which I wasn't and not spending time with in-laws. AIBU to stay near my family during such a sad time. So I then expected him to be up like a shot following weekend, but no he was on works night out Fri which was far more important and then he was at his mum's to go visit another grieving relative. He would see me at funeral. Weekend arrived and visit moved to Sunday, but rather than take short trip to see me and little one on Saturday, he sat at home with his mother watching TV!!! If you can't make effort to support a grieving wife/husband what is the point? Maybe I'm just expecting too much i know how I'd behave if tables were turned.
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RiverdaleJughead ·
13/03/2017 00:05
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