We have been friends for about 15 years. Drifted in closeness due to living an hour away from each other but still remained in touch via text. I recently moved to the town she lives in.
Since I have moved we have seen alot more of each other which was nice. Around the same time I moved she broke up with her long term boyfriend and my partner and I made an effort to include her in alot of our plans so that she wasn't at home feeling fed up while she was getting over it. I also helped out with bringing her shopping and giving her lifts as she doesn't drive and her boyfriend would normally have helped with this.
Time has gone on and I've seen a bit less of her- she doesn't join my partner and I for a drink any more and has started dating again which is great and I'm happy she is moving on.
Over the past couple of months though, I have come to realise I only really hear from her when she needs something. She'll invite me for coffee before she starts work, knowing this will result in a lift into town for her. If she doesn't ask me directly for a lift she will just message and say "omg i have so much to do today, i cant believe I'll need to trek to X/Y/Z on the bus." If I (purposely) don't pick up on her hint she will call me and ask me for a lift, barely even says please or thankyou. She called me once a couple of weeks ago asking me to make a 3 hour round trip with my son in towe to save her getting the train back from her one night stand.
I was going to visit a relative in intensive care last week and she asked if I could run a couple of errands for her before I went, didnt ask after relative and barely commented when i replied my car was off the road.
The final straw was yesterday, I hadn't heard from her all week after she had been on a spa weekend with her new man so I text her to ask how it went and if she had a good time. She replied asking if my car was back on the road yet and would i pick her up from the train station. When I said no as the car was still out of action she didn't reply until later that night when she practically demanded that I interrupt my Sunday dinner with DPs parents to get her a takeaway and take it to her house because her ex was delivering so she couldn't face seeing him. I was pissed off by then and just turned my phone off. When I switched it back on there were more messages badgering me plus a pointed facebook status hinting at me to bring her food.
It takes me all my strength to reply that I'm not a fucking skivvy.
Should I tell her to fuck off? She has the skin of a Rhino so I don't know what i could say to make her see that this isnt on. I feel like i'm just a replacement car service since her ex can't ferry her around any more.
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CatCafe · 28/02/2017 19:06
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