To ask you all how you met your DP/DHs - and what you love about them?

[BlueDaBaDee]

Just broken up with wanker exP. I reallllly really hate being single so it was hard but I'm going to be strong this time! I just want a nice normal life snuggled up on the sofa every night with someone watching Netflix

Anyway, I love these threads and it will help me keep my resolve when I get the inevitable begging for one last chance messages - so can everyone tell me how you met your OH and what you love about them?

Basically tell me about your healthy, happy relationships so I'm less tempted to enter back into my toxic previous one!

[MrsTarzan1]

Met on a night out in a nightclub aged 19. Married 10 years now, 2 kids.

Love so much about him. He's so supportive, he's our rock. Lives and breathes for the kids & I. Works so hard. Very driven and ambitious. He's got a great sense of humour and is always fun to be around.

Has a bit of a temper and can be a bit lazy around the house, but nothing major at all, and I know I have my faults too!

Hope you find someone fantastic :)

[Chasingsquirrels]

He'd been my boss for about 10 years, with no sign of a spark, we were friendly but in a purely work way.
ExH left me.
A few years later he left his wife.
I'd been talking to him about getting into OLD and he asked me for lunch.
.....
He is kind, he cares about me and others and how they are, he makes me laugh, over the space of a few months of getting to know each other better I became increasing physically attracted to him and still am. Walking into a place where he is feels like coming home. I just enjoy BEING with him.

[RainyDayBear]

I met my DP in school, we were friends for ten years with no spark, and then one night we both had a bit of a lightbulb moment!

He is bloody lovely and always takes such good care of me and our DD. I've been ill recently and I can't remember the last bit of cooking or cleaning I did, he has done my share and just told me to rest. He offered to cancel his night out tonight if I needed him to, and genuinely meant it. We don't argue as a rule, but he was a touch snappy the other morning (DD is teething and we are both so tired) and he apologised five minutes later, and then texted to apologise from work as he was feeling bad.

Also, he'd be embarrassed if he knew I'd told anyone this, but he once made the cat a birthday omelette Clearly he's a keeper!

[Dulcimena]

He started working at my place (v big company). I clocked him straight away. 4 years later actually spoke to him at a mutual work friend's birthday do. Many conversations then followed about his gorgeous eyes with mutual friend. Several stilted dates over a few months followed. Then somehow everything fell into place 8 years ago. We've since discovered many "near misses" where our paths should have crossed over the past 25 years.

He is gentle, kind, dazzlingly intelligent, infinitely knowledgeable, funny, loyal, generous, calm, interested in me and the world, interesting, he "gets" me and my little weirdnesses, he's devastatingly handsome with the most beautiful eyes. He's my best friend and I've never met anyone like him before. I feel like a bigger, better, stronger version of me when I'm with him. He could be more decisive sometimes but I really can't complain! We're a team.

[YawningHippo]

Met 7 years ago when I was 21 and he was 17, we are cousins. Nothing happened for 4 years despite an attraction between us, until one night it just all clicked into place. Been together 2 years and DS is due in May.

I love him for his sense of humour, his desire to want to understand me and the fact he's never walked away from me, he fights our fights alongside me. He also loves my children as his own and I love to see him play games with them as he's naturally very reserved around children. He is a total pain in the bum at times though.

[The80sweregreat]

Been married 27 years.
Met in a bar. He isnt perfect, but neither am I. Can drive us mad with his funny ways.
He is funny and kind and loyal and kept us all going through thick and thin
Been lots of thin..!

[AnythingConsidered]

Met him on a year long evening training course. Fancied him immediately, but quickly established he had a girlfriend, so backed right off.

6 months in, he split from his girlfriend. We went on a date on the Sat night, he stayed the weekend, I moved in on the Monday and been together for the 16 years since.

He is 10 years older than me. I love his intelligence (I always learn something new from him), his humor and how conformtable he is in the role reversal we adopted 12 years ago (he quit senior role in corporate to become a SAHP and allow my career to develop).

He supports me absolutely, keeps me on the financial straight and narrow, loves travelling & loves a party!

He is not perfect by any stretch, but he is perfect for me & I absolutely adore him.

[JaceLancs]

Met 28+ years ago at a works xmas do - we were both in other relationships at the time
10 years later we got it together when we were both single

[Huskylover1]

I met first husband at 17 and separated at 37. Spent 20 years together fgs, only to find out he was a cheat the whole time :-( At the end he also assaulted me twice.

Met my now DH, some 8 years ago, and he is the bloody bees knees! Never met a better man in all my days. He is tall (6 ft 3) massive rugby player build, so fucking handsome it's mental, is amazing in bed, so supportive, so sexy, I feel like I have won the lottery. Oh and he is a policeman and on the odd occasion he has had to pop home for something, in his full kit (vest/spray/baton), I have almost had an orgasm on the spot! He has no idea I've been eyeing him up whilst he grabs whatever, but honestly I could burst with happiness that this lovely male specimen is all mine. Go for it!

[notagiraffe]

He was a friend of a close friend who said we'd adore each other. She was right. We did. Twenty-two years now... He makes me laugh every day. I trust him. He's kind. He does his share of cooking, shopping, cleaning. He's romantic too. We have loads of shared interests.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

In a bar, last night of my holidays. He wooed me with talk of books (and he was insanely hot).

I love that he is sweet and strong and kind and cleans the house (because goodness knows I don't), I love that he said he didn't used to cry before me and DD came along and now he does because he's soft as shite because he loves us so much.

I was in my 30s coming out of a shit relationship BTW so don't let anyone tell you it's impossible.

[seafoodeatit]

Met almost 8 years ago in a bar through a mutual friend, got engaged 6 months later, married 13 months after that. We now have 2 children and expecting our third.


I love how supportive he is, he's very caring and loving, he looks after me when I'm not feeling well and is my rock when anxiety/panic attacks strike. I fee like he understands me in a way nobody else does and we have the same weird sense of humour.

[StillSmallVoice]

Husky - your ex sounds a bit like mine. I did 22 years. You get less than that for murder!

Met DH online. The first internet date. He was geeky and dull and reliable, kind, patient and solvent and has no psychological/esteem issues. I kept telling people not to get excited because he isn't exciting.

ExH was interesting and exciting. But abusive in just about every way it it possible to be abusive.

Eight years on I still can't believe my luck at meeting my patient, caring, loving, supportive DH.

Did anyone else meet on their first ever internet date? (Or am I use not very fussy?)

[DeathByMascara]

On a bus trip in Australia two weeks after starting my year out. He was newly out of a relationship, I tried hard not to fall for him because he was so obviously not up for it.

He followed me to where I went after the trip ended. We spent 5 days together, two weeks apart & when we met up again, that was it. Moved in together 6 weeks later & more than 10 years on, we love each other more than ever.

It was his kindness that got me first. Then I realised that he lets me be me. I'm more myself with him than I've ever been with anyone, I've always had a tendency to adapt my personality to whoever I'm with - he's allowed me to accept myself & be who I am.

He is a wonderful father to our two children, a fabulous husband to me and an all round good guy. I'm very lucky 😍

[Teepish]

"I feel like a bigger, better stronger version of me when I'm with him."

I've only had a few long term relationships in my life and none of them made me feel like this I can't even imagine it.

I just want a nice, normal life on the sofa watching Netflix too Op.

[TheresABluebirdOnMyShoulder]

These are really lovely! Such a nice idea for a thread.

Met when we were teenagers. Best friends for several years and just gradually fell in love with each other. All our friends and both families realised way, way before we did 😁 One day, he was going off on holiday and we had a genuinely perfectly innocent goodbye cuddle which sent sparks flying and we realised we were madly in love. As soon as he came home again we got together and now we're married with DC and still sickeningly loved up!

I love him because he is funny, kind, generous, thoughtful, affectionate, loyal, an amazing father to our babies and never makes me doubt that I picked the right man. Hopefully he thinks I'm alright too 😁

I'm sorry you're having a shit time BlueDaBaDee and I'm sorry your ex turned out to be a wanker. But hopefully all these posts will remind you that there are plenty of wonderful people out there too and you will find one!

[maxiflump1]

Met mine on an internet dating site 9 years ago. Hit the jackpot straight away: he was the first one to message me and the only one I met IRL. Best £50 I ever spent!

[maxiflump1]

Oops hit post by mistake! What I love most about him is that I can just be myself with him. It just feels so easy and relaxed. Other relationships always seemed like effort. Sending you op! x

[SomewhereInbetween1]

I met my partner when I was 22 when he was the assistant GM in my village's sweet little local. We were friends for a little while at first, and then we both admitted our real feelings for one another. Two years later and I still get butterflies when I look at him. He is without a doubt the kindest person I have ever met. Really upbeat, hugely supportive, selfless and absolutely hilarious. I love him to pieces and look forward to many more years together.

[UnbornMortificado]

Psychiatric hospital. DH is a saint that's why I love him. It was a shitty abusive relationship that partly led to me being in that psychiatric hospital in the first place.

We're now married and expecting his first child.

[SuperPug]

**Still, same here. Met DH on my first internet date, ended up speaking for hours and been together ever since.
Pre DH, I wasn't unhappy but I was extremely lonely at times. DH is wonderful - geeky, like me, loving, handsome kind, always puts me first. That's what you're looking for - not a type, not a bad boy (aargh) but someone who will always genuinely care for you. Those people are out there and it is not worth spending your time on idiots who play games.
There's a pretty depressing article in The Times today RE: internet dating and how disposable everyone is. Depending on how you use it, it doesn't have to be like that.
Btw, not knocking people who want other things out of OLD, that just wasn't for me.

[StillSmallVoice]

maxi - You hear such a lot about internet dating troubles. I thought I must have been a one-off. Glad to hear there's another (and mine was a bargain - it was only 35 pounds)

to OP as well

[StillSmallVoice]

Super - cross post. I'm smiling now. Looks like there's lots of us!

[jennymac31]

Met dh whilst studying postgraduate course. He asked me out while we were on the course but I said no, as I thought he was too nice a guy and I much preferred bad boys at that time. A year later I bumped into him in tesco (just moving back into the area after living back home with parents). We exchanged numbers, met up a few times and decided to give it a go just before his 24th birthday. Been together 12 years now, married 6 years with dd and a ds on the way.

Dh is my best friend and I love how he thinks the world of me, even though I do think he's too good for me. I don't know what he sees in me sometimes but I love him to bits and would be lost without him.

[MischiefManagedAlways]

I used to go to school with mine and then he left to go and live back up North.
He got in contact with me via Twitter 2 years ago and we've been together ever since.

He is honestly the most amazing person I know and I've been quite unwell mentally for the past year but he hasn't faltered once. He's seen me at my absolute worse and still loves me for who I am.

We also have the most fun together and he's absolutely gorgeous of course I couldn't be without him.