I've got 2 v young children, 1 yrs old and 2 yrs old. DP works long hours so don't have much help - PILs do a bit here and there for us.
Anyway, I seem to spend a lot of time feeling royally pissed off and resentful that my mum doesn't help out with the kids. Granted, she lives up north while we're down south and she works but her job is v flexible (i.e. Some weeks she spends a large part of the week working from home).
She had my sister and I very close together so she knows how fucking mindblowingly relentless it is, how tiring and how manic my life has become. I just don't understand why she wouldn't offer to take them for a bit or take a few days off and come down and help out. She helped out for a week after dc2 was born but that's all she's ever done really apart from babysit in the evening a few times when it was pretty much guaranteed that the kids wouldn't wake up.
My sister (who doesn't have a particularly close relationship with her either) says I am being U as mum prob feels like she has 'done her time' and shouldn't be expected to muck in. She was never particularly happy in the mother role with us so not sure why I expect any difference now with my own children.
I just seem to grow ever more resentful that her bi monthly visits are just popping in for a day at the weekend (when dp is home and I have help) and chucking a few pressies at the kids and then leaving. She's a v difficult character so know it would end up in a huge row if I said anything but just wondered if other people understand where I'm coming from or if I'm just being sensitive and acting entitled?
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c737 · 11/01/2017 20:19
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