To want access to my money

[SaveYourTearsForYourPillow]

Myself and Dp are trying to sort out finances. He wants to open a new account for all out bills and rent to come out of each month. That is fine however he wants the account in his name.

He wants us both to put in a surplus amount in each month to ensure all bills are covered. AIBU to say no to this if I do not have access to the account?

[RipMacWinkle]

YANBU

Absolutely no way

[EveOnline2016]

Do you have a a history of being rubbish with money.

[TitaniasCloset]

No!!! It can't just be in his name, get a joint account ffs! Yanbu.

[treaclesoda]

I would agree with you.

What is his reason for wanting it in his name?

[Oldbutstillgotit]

Why does he want it in his name only ?

[YellowDinosaur]

No fucking way should you agree to this. Why can't it be in both of your names?

[Spam88]

Um, nope?

Sounds like a perfectly reasonable plan if it's in both of your names though. What reason does he have for only wanting it in his name?

[Supermagicsmile]

Agree fully. It's either in your name
Too or you're not paying into it!

[LimpidPools]

No, you are not being unreasonable. Why would that not be a joint account?

Unless there's some huge back story about you spending all the bill money on fripperies.

What's his reasoning?

[Ilovecaindingle]

Def bloody not!!!

[Grumpyoldblonde]

Nope, nope and NO way

[Fartleks]

Why does he want that?

[Feelingworriednow]

I would want to know what benefit he sees in only having one name on the account. There isn't one from a financial point of view so it must be a personal benefit.
No way would I agree to this. If you can't see what's going on he could be using the surplus for himself.

[e1y1]

No YANBU - and DO NOT be putting money in to an account that you have no control over whatsoever.

[FannyCradock]

No way.

[SaveYourTearsForYourPillow]

I'm not the greatest with money however I am not in debt, and have always paid my rent and bills in time.

[snapcrap]

No way

[expatinscotland]

Haahaa! I'll bet he does. Erm, no.

[Oldbutstillgotit]

Even if you are not great with money it is unreasonable to expect you to pay money into an account that you have no access to. YANBU to say no

[hooliodancer]

No, never.

The best thing we ever did years ago was open a joint account to cover bills. We both had direct debits in to it of equal amounts. We also opened a joint credit card for all food and house purchases, with a direct debit from the joint current account to pay it monthly. No arguments about money ever again.

[SaveYourTearsForYourPillow]

Thanks everyone showing dp this thread as he thinks I'm being over dramatic.

[pinkblink]

Is he quite controlling in general?

[newmumwithquestions]

Is there more to this OP? You say 'sort out finances' - have you built up debts?

If not then it sounds very controlling - open the account in joint names or not at all.
Even if you have built up debts but are trying to sort it out I'd say open it in joint names.

[SaveYourTearsForYourPillow]

The reason why we are doing it is because I start a new job in two weeks which will massively change our financial situation and double the amount of money we have coming in.

He isn't controlling usually just a bit shortsighted.