...To think I've had the worst Christmas ever?

[BlueNeighbourhood]

I'm pretty sure this is all going to come under the guise of first world problems but really I just want a rant.

I'm 32, have a partner and it's our first Christmas. We're unfortunately in a LDR and we've decided at present not to tell any friends/family until we decide we definitely have a future. We've been friends for 4 years and dating for seven months now :)

Anyway I live with my Gran. Gran woke up this morning really poorly - had another of her turns. My parents (Dad is her Mum), my Uncle and my sister all didn't call her this morning so had no idea she was sick as she was coming for dinner at my sisters house. Anyway, eventually I got my Dad to call her. Nana went to my sisters, slept through the whole thing and demanded to be taken home which I did. Meaning I missed time with my parents and siblings. So now I've done three separate trips to my sisters house and everyone is texting me asking how Nana is - but not one of them have bothered to call her. Now she's insisting she's going to bed but hasn't gone, I've offered her meals, her medication, everything and she won't have any of it.

I mentioned DP as she's been off with me since yesterday. We had a wonderful time together on Wednesday and today everything is very curt, very to the point almost to rude. I was showing her a picture of me five years ago yesterday - to be told by her never to look like that again as she wouldn't date me. Lovely! I've asked her to FaceTime and she's ignored the question. The rest of the time she is freaking lovely and yesterday and today she's just been so awkward. I don't think she even means it, she's just like this when she's at home with her parents. And I know I know, people go through much worse but I'd been so excited for our first Christmas this year!

I have the most wonderful family and DP and at any other time of the year I wouldn't swap them for anything, but this time of year everything seems to implode on us. So yeah, just a bit of first world problems and a rant really!

[ihatethecold]

That is the most confusing op I think I've read in a long time.

I must be getting old

[BlueNeighbourhood]

Haha that's my mood for you!

Basically my Gran is sick - none of my family have helped but me and I've spent the day ferrying her about with no help or support.

Coupled with that DP is being a bit of a prick today as well. It hasn't been great!

So much so I headed down the beach tonight just to sit and have a little cry on my own in the car - it's been one of the worst Christmas Day's I've ever had.

[TwentyChews]

ihate wow - nice empathetic response there - Merry Christmas to you.

OP - I am sorry you had a rotten day - seems like you had your family taking advantage of your good nature/expecting you to do all the running, for your Gran and then I think your DP was a bit mean (if I have read correctly) and now cold with you.

You are totally allowed to rant. I hope you get to talk to your DP properly - call them on it - no excuse for being mean like that.

[ClarissaDarling]

I know ive been on the port but......

[pipsqueak25]

ihate you and me both. seems like nana has had a 'turn' [sometimes seen as attention seeking by some] has been taken home but is refusing further assistance, family wanting up dates but nana unable to deal with this, op is having to do the updates, xmas has passed by and she is fed up.... i think , sorry if i got any of that wrong op

[clementineorange]

What does LDR mean?

[ExitPursuedBySantaSpartacus]

Have a sherry.

Hth.

[BlueNeighbourhood]

Ah she's not attention seeking, she's genuinely sick and I've just had to help her to bed. She hasn't ate all day and looks terrible. It's the rest of my family and their complete lack of support, they think by visiting her house for half an hour that's their duty done really.

I have just had a text conversation with DP (because she's a pain and hates being on phone calls) and has apologised for her comments yesterday. It's probably my mood that's making me feel worse to be honest rather than her behaviour.

[LotsoNumbers]

Clementine long distance relationship

[BlueNeighbourhood]

Exit - I'm teetotal due to my sports I play which probably doesn't help with this time of year!!

[haveacupoftea]

Theres 2 hours of Christmas day left make it the best it can be. Pyjamas on, , , .

[pipsqueak25]

blue sorry for the inference which is not the case with your gran, this is really lousy for you all the same.

[ihatethecold]

TwentyChews
Get a grip.
Hardly unsympathetic, just couldn't understand what the op was on about!

[Konyaa]

Ahhh DP is a she. That's ego The SHE Is in the second paragraph of the OP. The fog lifts.

[Crispbutty]

How old is your grandmother? Should you maybe call the doctor?

[Konyaa]

That's ego = that's the

Not more confusion no

[BlueNeighbourhood]

Pipsqueak - it's honestly not a problem! I read enough posts on here whereby they are attention seeking. It's probably why I hardly post, my life is absolutely lovely for most of the year till Christmas. When something always seems to go wrong!

Two hours left - fave tv series on DVD and new pyjamas. And a can of Coca Cola!

[Graphista]

What does 'a turn' mean? Sorry you've had a rubbish day and your (and your nana's) family absolutely should be helping more.

I'm just concerned that the change of behaviour/personality may be symptomatic rather than just behavioural. Especially as she's not eaten. Is she drinking enough? Diabetic? Other possible reasons?

[glitterandtinsel]

Sometimes it can mean brain injury...but I watch a lot of programs like 24 hours in A&E.

[BlueNeighbourhood]

She has them. She's been poorly recently and for a while until test results were complete doctors thought she may have bowel cancer. Basically she's constantly tired, can barely lift her head up to do anything and spends most of her time asleep.

The last time was when we went to London for a couple of days to watch the tennis and the sheer volume of walking and travelling resulted in her being like this. It's almost like exhaustion to the extreme. So she won't eat or take her tablets as she says they make her sick even more. Usually it passes after a few days but it's horrible to sit and go through - I can't even begin to imagine how she feels either.

[Mrsmorton]

Potentially your worst Christmas ever and sympathy for that OP.

In the grand scheme of things you're doing OK though.

[Graphista]

I'm assuming she was checked for other bowel issues, dehydration, thyroid issues, elderly onset coeliac, vitamin levels, anaemia etc?

It's hard to get the elderly to take self care on board sometimes. Sometimes due to symptoms sometimes due to depression or anxiety. I hope she's better soon and you get more support.

[MatildaTheCat]

When adults go home to stay with their parents for Christmas or other occasions they can so quickly revert to stroppy teenagers. I'm sure your dp is sorry and that will be fine.

Not sure why you seem to have sole care responsibility for your GM but your family have been crap and you'd been fully entitled to spark them for further support and a hint that you've had a crap day.

I hope tomorrow is better.

[Graphista]

What meds is she on? Some are more likely to cause nausea on empty stomach/if dehydrated.

[summerblonde]

It sounds like shes not that into you anymore. The comment about 'not looking like that again'- tells you all you need to know. Go with your gut instinct, it sounds like she has the problem.