My sister brought a half drunk bottle of wine to my dinner party

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

She is 28, not a student. She mentioned it was left over from her party the night before, but was "really good". I was speechless, AIBU to think this is rude?

Not to drip feed: she is self employed in a career where work is not always there, so she is careful with money, fair enough. But she makes a huge point of how skint she is every time we meet up (e.g. publicly saying in front of our friends oh i can't afford that restaurant I'll just have a coffee - fine but why the martyrdom, it's just attention seeking - restaurant was a couple of £ per course dearer than pizza express or similar where she would be ok apparently).

She is not skint. She lives (rented) in north London zone 3 naice area. She has savings for rainy day (sensible). She gets by fine.

Please tell me IABU or not because i am SO IRRITATED by her.

[TheNaze73]

We've all done it OP. Let it go

[Lilaclily]

Maybe she didn't get chance to go shopping

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Ok, then you bring nothing?

[RoseGoldHippie]

This time of year I try to rid my cupboards of all the Booze I have collected in the year (birthdays, house gathering etc) and take half bottles of vodka, gin, the spare can of larger to people's houses lol

[lovelearning]

but was "really good"

Better half a bottle of good wine than a whole bottle of vinegar.

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Fully prepared to be told IABU and out of context maybe so. But you wouldn't do it if you were invited to a friend's dinner would you? So why ok with family? I think she was just trying to make a point (again).

[BeverlyGoldberg]

I think you need to lighten up.

Also don't see why (rented) comes into her choice of drink for your dinner party.

[GreatFuckability]

What's the issue? She thought it was nice so didn't want it to go to waste.

[EnoughAlreadyLady]

YABU - it would be silly to let it go to waste

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

No issue with not wanting good wine to go to waste. But we made a huge effort with the dinner, it wasn't a casual affair.

I'm allowing my feelings about her as a person to cloud my judgment I know

[comewoowoowithme]

Yabu

[reallyanotherone]

is not skint. She lives (rented) in north London zone 3 naice area. She has savings for rainy day (sensible). She gets by fine.

How do you know? Rent in zone 3 naice area probably takes a massive chunk of her wages and may well not leave her much disposable income after her bills are are paid.

Don't judge. My mother thinks we are a couple of quid from a foodbank as we don't earn much, but we manage money well. Others can have seemingly large incomes but large bills that eat in to it.

[happychristmasbum]

Sorry but YABU. I wouldn't have given it a second thought.

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Really maybe so but I do know quite a lot about her situation- she is my sister and won't stop going on about it

[Idontbelievethelies]

Was it not more important that your sister made the effort to see you, than which wine she brought? If I was close enough to my sister to invite her to my party I'd just be thrilled she was there, and couldn't care what she brought with her. Focus on the fact you have a relationship with your sister and forget about the wine.

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Pretty unanimous IABU. Ok thank you

[QueenMortificado]

I really wouldn't have cared

I came to my parents for Christmas and brought some wine and brandy with me. One bottle I opened the night before and had a glass out of, then realised I wasn't going to drink the whole thing or pour it away so brought it with me. It's really not a big deal.

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

Ok, then you bring nothing?

Why?

She was going to a party at her sister's, not Buckingham Palace.

[OohhThatsMe]

I'm with you, OP!

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Responses are making me see that issue I have is with my sister herself not the fact she brought half a bottle of wine. Which in itself is ok, it seems

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

I personally would not do it myself

[BlueFolly]

Clearly the problem is that you find your sister irritating, rather than the half bottle of wine. Dear

[BlueFolly]

Dunno where the random 'Dear' came from ! Way to make me look weirdly passive aggressive, spell checker

[peanut2017]

Can see how it's irritating but think the issues are more with your sister in general than the wine?

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Thanks Blue. You are right.. sigh