To not make another appointment until I'm ready to (without giving a reason)?

[allsfairinlove]

I've been getting my hair cut from a mobile hairdresser who comes round to my house, have had roughly half a dozen appointments over the past six months.

Thing is, I didn't really want to book the last three or so as I found a local salon that I prefer (stylist there seems to really "get" my slightly unruly hair) but she (mobile hairdresser) kept texting, asking when I wanted my next appointment/that she was in the area next Friday for example, that I felt obliged to book.

Last appointment was a couple of months ago, before I went on holiday. She asked whether I wanted to book my next appointment for when I got back and I said I didn't know what my plans were yet and that I'd give her ring/text, if that was OK. She said "of course" and we left it at that.

2 weeks ago, she texted to say was I ready for my next appointment yet and I replied saying not yet. A week later she texted again. I didn't reply to that one.

She's texted again today to ask. Now whilst I do completely understand that it's business and important for her to build a client base, I'm starting to feel a little harassed! I know I'm probably BU but I'm actually beginning to feel that I don't want her to cut my hair anymore as:

1. I think the salon is both better value AND does a better job on my hair
   
   
2. I hate the feeling of being constantly chased to book a hair appointment that I don't really want. It's not cheap and I'm not that bothered about having regular cuts TBH.
   
   Plus I prefer to be the one making the call as and when I want a hair cut.
   
   What does MN jury think? Perfectly prepared to be told IABU, that I should let her know that I don't want to book another appointment (I realise it's probably the decent thing to do in which case I'm being a bit of a coward )

[LittleBearPad]

Be breve and tell her. You know you have to.

or tell her you've moved out the area

Block her number either way. She sounds irritating.

[allsfairinlove]

Oh, and so that I don't drip feed I should add that I had already told her right from the start that I wasn't one to have regular haircuts and she said "that's entirely your call. You let me know when you need me, that's totally fine with me".

[BreakfastAtSquiffanys]

Just text her back to say that you've found another stylist.
Happens all the time, she shouldn't take it personally.
Otherwise you're just wasting her time

[GiddyGiddyGoat]

If you don't want to use her then just reply saying thank you but actually you don't want another appointment.
You really don't have to explain. If she contacts you after that then don't reply. She would be unreasonable to contact you if you tell her straight no thanks.

[ImissGrannyW]

she's not a friend, she's a business acquaintance. From her point of view she needs a client base, but you don't have to be a client.

You don't owe her anything. Block her number and don't reply to messages. She'll work it out and move on.

Hope your hair looks fab!

[BillSykesDog]

Text her and say you're skint at the moment and won't be able to afford haircuts for the foreseeable.

[theclick]

You've had 6 appointments in 6 months??!

[SnowBodyforrrrm]

I'd text and say you've decided to cut back on appointments and when you do have them, you're going to treat yourself to getting your hair done in a salon where you get pampered as opposed to having someone come to your house, feel obliged to offer them drinks or dinner in my case and not have to break your back trying to wash your hair over the bath!

[8misskitty8]

Just text and tell her sorry, you won't be needing her services from now on as you have found another hairdresser. You don't even have to talk to her.

I'm assuming it's a typo but if it isn't why are you getting your hair cut every month ? You'll have nothing left to cut !

[GoldFishFingerz]

Text her 'not up for hair cut at mo but will text you if I change my mind'

[GoldFishFingerz]

'Thinking of growing my hair out a little so going to have a break. I'll ring you if I need you though'

[allsfairinlove]

Thanks for the thoughts -- OK, so no need to feel bad about not asking her again but texting to let her know is the preferred action?

click and 8, yes! I've been having a unwanted cut a month! I know, I know, I'm a pushover...

[DrinkReprehensibly]

I had to do this recently with a personal trainer I was having weekly sessions with. I said thanks for everything but I'm going to try something different for a little while, probably not forever but can we leave it until I get back in touch. She said no probs and I said thanks and I'll pass her details on to anyone interested in similar sessions.

You could pitch it a bit like that maybe?

[allsfairinlove]

Thanks Imiss! Wouldn't say my hair looks exactly fab at the moment but I think if I follow your advice and stop bloody cutting it so often, it might do! You know that magical few days when your hair actually starts behaving itself, literally just before a haircut is needed? Yup, haven't had that for ooh, six months!

[MissElizaBennettsBookmark]

Not quite sure why you can't just text her and say 'thanks but I won't be needing you to call. Its more convenient for me to go to a salon for my haircuts'.

She runs a business, you are a client. You are allowed to take your business elsewhere...

[allsfairinlove]

Gahhh misseliza!!! If I'd had the nerve to say that, I wouldn't have started this thread!

Great advice though. I'll try what drink suggests. I think I might be able to say something like that

[8misskitty8]

Just think of the money that you'll save by not getting it cut every month !
A good cut every 3 months or so is probably all you really need.