To think this midwife sounds a right bellend?!

[MyBreadIsEggy]

I'm watching a documentary about midwives in a big women's hospital. A woman has been in the hospital for a few days, multiple attempts at induction (she has a medical condition that means the baby needs to be delivered) and absolutely zero progress has been made with getting labour going. She's getting increasingly more hacked off about being stuck in hospital with nothing happening, and a midwife actually just said: "well think of it this way, if you're still here, then you're increasing your chances of having a normal delivery, not just ducking out and having the c-section" What the fuck?!
I've had a vaginal delivery, but I can't imagine major abdominal surgery is a walk in the park! To hear such an experience being described as "ducking out" by someone who's supposed to be supporting women at their most vulnerable has really riled me!!

[Humidseptember]

Appalling and I am appalled a so called MW would utter such hideous words.

someone exposed MW chat forum on here once, it was full of such comments actually. One wonders what goes in MW school, really.

Can you write in and complain? ps I have had both.

[MidMay]

YANBU and tbh the longer she's in hospital the more likely the woman will end up with a section anyhow.

[OhtoblazeswithElvira]

That MW has no idea about sections really, does she?

Also if the patient has a condition whereby the baby needs to be delivered, aren't delays putting her in danger? And perhaps her baby, too

Unbelievable

[StrongTeaHotShower]

That's terrible, really bad attitude. A birth is a birth be it in a pool at home or a c/s in theatre.

[MyBreadIsEggy]

Humid it's on YouTube and I think it's quite old...but still, I'm shocked!!

[honeysucklejasmine]

What are you watching?

[MyBreadIsEggy]

"The Midwives" Season 1, Episode 5

[Amalfimamma]

YANBU and the MW needs a serious kick up the backside IMHO. I've had 2 EMCS and if any midwife dared said something like that to me or within earshot of me I'd be reporting her and getting her struck off.

[Batteriesallgone]

That's awful! Surely what's important - especially when you have a medical condition - is the safest delivery for you and baby?

Who even gives a shit about the perceived levels of 'work' involved anyway? Its a medical procedure at the end of the day not an exam

[RunningLulu]

Midwives aren't doctors though, and it's doctors who decide whether a woman should have a C Section. Any midwife who thinks otherwise deserves to be struck off.

[Bearfrills]

I had DC2 by emergency section after a normal VB delivery with DC1. My community MW came out to the house to do my postnatal visit once I was home and asked me "why on earth did you have a caesarean when everything was absolutely fine!?"

"Because you completely missed the fact she was breech...." was my answer.

Sadly there are still people out there, including professionals, who think a section is the easy option.

[MyBreadIsEggy]

It was just the way she described it as if c-section is the easy option.
I've seen people on here describe c-section recovery, and can't even begin to imagine what that feels like. Definitely does not sound like "ducking out" to me

[miserablesod]

Reminds me of the time when i was a student midwife looking after a woman in labour. I went out to the nurses station to do something and my lady started to scream in pain, one of the midwives said to me "can you go and shut her up". I was literally in shock, i thought she was joking but when her and another midwife started making sarcy comments i realised she wasn't joking. Needless to say i did not last long as a student midwife after multiple bad experiences.

[BigGirlsDontCry1]

I have had both a vaginal delivery and a c-section.

I had a tough time with my first born ( vaginal delivery), was a painful and tiring full on 25 hours. My second was an emergency C after 13 hours labour- nobody had realised DD was breech and I had an abrupted placenta!

I am made of strong stuff and rarely make a fuss- so yes, I'm implying I ain't no wimp.

Although once I had received my anesthetic the C Section delivery was easier, the recovery is a different story. It is major surgery FFS!

To posh to push is a load of B#^~*s'

I hope the midwife had personal experience both ways!

[Sparklesilverglitter]

How awful for the Mum to be that it was said

I recently had my first baby and I wanted a vaginal birth with minimal intervention very much and all was going well for the first few hours but due to complications and them being worried about baby and me I ended up with an emergency c section.
It's been a few weeks now and I still feel very sore and I've in no way had an easy recovery so IMO it wasn't an easy no pain recover quicker thing

[MyBreadIsEggy]

Sparkle
I had a very straightforward, simple vaginal delivery....and I was still sore and battered and bruised. I can't begin to imagine how hard it must be to take care of a newborn when you've had a massive surgery - c-section mum's have major respect from me! You ladies are hardcore!!

[gonetoseeamanaboutadog]

It doesn't surprise me in the least. I was shattered when going through a nightmare pregnancy (and supposed to be weighing up my delivery options) to be issued with a pamphlet that read,

'Some women, through no fault of their own, have to have a C-section.'

It was the first time I'd realised that I could make a choice that would be considered 'my fault'. Awful.

[Eatthecake]

I feel for the Mum to be, you don't need a midwife like that

I have had 4 DC and the last DC I was 49 when I had him and I ended up with a c section as an emergency and also had to have a hysterectomy to save my life.
I have had a worse time recovering from my c section than I did with any of my vaginal births. Yes I was luckily with my vaginal births compared to some people I know that but I recovered very quickly from them compared to c section

[gonetoseeamanaboutadog]

Having said that, I was very lucky to find a planned C section a walk in the park.

[MidnightMargaritas]

Ive had both and the c-section was the hardest thing I've ever gone through!

[RaspberryOverload]

A C-section certainly wasn't the easy option for me. It was C-section or dead, no choice there!

I don't know anyone who had a C-section who chose it as the "easy" option, they were all necessary.

[tappitytaptap]

I had an EMCS with DS. No idea if it was the 'easy' way out (the morphine helped afterwards but I was pretty sore!) but given he was tangled in the cord and every contraction was lowering his heart rate, I am bloody glad I did! Its not like they do an EMCS if you just fancy one is it?!

[alltouchedout]

Ducking out? Bloody hell My mum found the experience of her crash sequin having me that her whole birth plan with my younger brother was basically "no section unless it's literally life or death,do anything you can to avoid a section" (I do wonder if she regretted that mind, she ended up having a full episiotomy and forceps and the recovery from that was horrible).
In any case midwives shouldn't be making any birth choice out to be some lazy, easy option. That's just horrible.

[allyre]

Well I've given birth both ways and to be honest I found the pain after a C Section much. On top of that it was agony when I went to the toilet after the C Section for at least a week - apparently the surgeons are quite rough when they are pulling the baby out (in my case two babies) and this can cause bladder problems. A C Section is definitely not the easy option.

[alltouchedout]

"sequin? Stupid stupid phone, when have I ever typed sequin? How on earth can that be what I mean when I type section?!