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To think this midwife sounds a right bellend?!

(73 Posts)
MyBreadIsEggy Tue 06-Sep-16 20:59:22

I'm watching a documentary about midwives in a big women's hospital. A woman has been in the hospital for a few days, multiple attempts at induction (she has a medical condition that means the baby needs to be delivered) and absolutely zero progress has been made with getting labour going. She's getting increasingly more hacked off about being stuck in hospital with nothing happening, and a midwife actually just said: "well think of it this way, if you're still here, then you're increasing your chances of having a normal delivery, not just ducking out and having the c-section" shock What the fuck?!
I've had a vaginal delivery, but I can't imagine major abdominal surgery is a walk in the park! To hear such an experience being described as "ducking out" by someone who's supposed to be supporting women at their most vulnerable has really riled me!!

Humidseptember Tue 06-Sep-16 21:01:14

Appalling and I am appalled a so called MW would utter such hideous words.

someone exposed MW chat forum on here once, it was full of such comments actually. One wonders what goes in MW school, really.

Can you write in and complain? ps I have had both.

MidMay Tue 06-Sep-16 21:01:54

YANBU and tbh the longer she's in hospital the more likely the woman will end up with a section anyhow.

OhtoblazeswithElvira Tue 06-Sep-16 21:02:52


That MW has no idea about sections really, does she?

Also if the patient has a condition whereby the baby needs to be delivered, aren't delays putting her in danger? And perhaps her baby, too


StrongTeaHotShower Tue 06-Sep-16 21:02:54

That's terrible, really bad attitude. A birth is a birth be it in a pool at home or a c/s in theatre.

MyBreadIsEggy Tue 06-Sep-16 21:02:54

Humid it's on YouTube and I think it's quite old...but still, I'm shocked!!

honeysucklejasmine Tue 06-Sep-16 21:02:55

What are you watching?

MyBreadIsEggy Tue 06-Sep-16 21:04:12

"The Midwives" Season 1, Episode 5

Amalfimamma Tue 06-Sep-16 21:04:44

YANBU and the MW needs a serious kick up the backside IMHO. I've had 2 EMCS and if any midwife dared said something like that to me or within earshot of me I'd be reporting her and getting her struck off.

Batteriesallgone Tue 06-Sep-16 21:06:34


That's awful! Surely what's important - especially when you have a medical condition - is the safest delivery for you and baby?

Who even gives a shit about the perceived levels of 'work' involved anyway? Its a medical procedure at the end of the day not an exam confused

RunningLulu Tue 06-Sep-16 21:07:00

Midwives aren't doctors though, and it's doctors who decide whether a woman should have a C Section. Any midwife who thinks otherwise deserves to be struck off.

Bearfrills Tue 06-Sep-16 21:08:01

I had DC2 by emergency section after a normal VB delivery with DC1. My community MW came out to the house to do my postnatal visit once I was home and asked me "why on earth did you have a caesarean when everything was absolutely fine!?"

"Because you completely missed the fact she was breech...." was my answer.

Sadly there are still people out there, including professionals, who think a section is the easy option.

MyBreadIsEggy Tue 06-Sep-16 21:09:20

It was just the way she described it as if c-section is the easy option.
I've seen people on here describe c-section recovery, and can't even begin to imagine what that feels like. Definitely does not sound like "ducking out" to me shock

miserablesod Tue 06-Sep-16 21:14:37

Reminds me of the time when i was a student midwife looking after a woman in labour. I went out to the nurses station to do something and my lady started to scream in pain, one of the midwives said to me "can you go and shut her up". I was literally in shock, i thought she was joking but when her and another midwife started making sarcy comments i realised she wasn't joking. Needless to say i did not last long as a student midwife after multiple bad experiences.

BigGirlsDontCry1 Tue 06-Sep-16 21:18:08

I have had both a vaginal delivery and a c-section.

I had a tough time with my first born ( vaginal delivery), was a painful and tiring full on 25 hours. My second was an emergency C after 13 hours labour- nobody had realised DD was breech and I had an abrupted placenta!

I am made of strong stuff and rarely make a fuss- so yes, I'm implying I ain't no wimp.

Although once I had received my anesthetic the C Section delivery was easier, the recovery is a different story. It is major surgery FFS!

To posh to push is a load of B*#^*~*s'

I hope the midwife had personal experience both ways!

Sparklesilverglitter Tue 06-Sep-16 21:23:39

How awful for the Mum to be that it was said

I recently had my first baby and I wanted a vaginal birth with minimal intervention very much and all was going well for the first few hours but due to complications and them being worried about baby and me I ended up with an emergency c section.
It's been a few weeks now and I still feel very sore and I've in no way had an easy recovery so IMO it wasn't an easy no pain recover quicker thing

MyBreadIsEggy Tue 06-Sep-16 21:26:38

I had a very straightforward, simple vaginal delivery....and I was still sore and battered and bruised. I can't begin to imagine how hard it must be to take care of a newborn when you've had a massive surgery - c-section mum's have major respect from me! You ladies are hardcore!!

gonetoseeamanaboutadog Tue 06-Sep-16 21:27:44

It doesn't surprise me in the least. I was shattered when going through a nightmare pregnancy (and supposed to be weighing up my delivery options) to be issued with a pamphlet that read,

'Some women, through no fault of their own, have to have a C-section.'

It was the first time I'd realised that I could make a choice that would be considered 'my fault'. Awful.

Eatthecake Tue 06-Sep-16 21:28:26

I feel for the Mum to be, you don't need a midwife like that

I have had 4 DC and the last DC I was 49 when I had him and I ended up with a c section as an emergency and also had to have a hysterectomy to save my life.
I have had a worse time recovering from my c section than I did with any of my vaginal births. Yes I was luckily with my vaginal births compared to some people I know that but I recovered very quickly from them compared to c section

gonetoseeamanaboutadog Tue 06-Sep-16 21:29:01

Having said that, I was very lucky to find a planned C section a walk in the park.

MidnightMargaritas Tue 06-Sep-16 21:29:07

Ive had both and the c-section was the hardest thing I've ever gone through!

RaspberryOverload Tue 06-Sep-16 21:29:09

A C-section certainly wasn't the easy option for me. It was C-section or dead, no choice there!

I don't know anyone who had a C-section who chose it as the "easy" option, they were all necessary.

tappitytaptap Tue 06-Sep-16 21:30:48

I had an EMCS with DS. No idea if it was the 'easy' way out (the morphine helped afterwards but I was pretty sore!) but given he was tangled in the cord and every contraction was lowering his heart rate, I am bloody glad I did! Its not like they do an EMCS if you just fancy one is it?!

alltouchedout Tue 06-Sep-16 21:31:47

Ducking out? Bloody hell shock My mum found the experience of her crash sequin having me that her whole birth plan with my younger brother was basically "no section unless it's literally life or death,do anything you can to avoid a section" (I do wonder if she regretted that mind, she ended up having a full episiotomy and forceps and the recovery from that was horrible).
In any case midwives shouldn't be making any birth choice out to be some lazy, easy option. That's just horrible.

allyre Tue 06-Sep-16 21:33:07

Well I've given birth both ways and to be honest I found the pain after a C Section much. On top of that it was agony when I went to the toilet after the C Section for at least a week - apparently the surgeons are quite rough when they are pulling the baby out (in my case two babies) and this can cause bladder problems. A C Section is definitely not the easy option.

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