A bit of background, I'm all over the shop at the moment as I'm currently 12 weeks pregnant - still have full blown morning sickness and am exhausted. Added to this I came out in full blown itchy hives a couple of days ago and this morning I woke up with something akin to (but thankfully not) flu. On top of everything I have a delightful DD who's 2, but has discovered the world of tantrums - these can go on for up to an hour and myself and DH are trying to figure out how to manage them. Safe to say I'm pretty much at the end of my tether and really can't figure out how awful I was to this woman before so need the perspective of mumsnet.
Earlier today, I was in the middle of trying to put my DD down for her lunchtime nap and was struggling with her having a massive tantrum when the door rang. I ignored it but it rang again about 30 second later. I thought it was probably DH who'd nipped out to pick up a prescription for me (he has a habit of forgetting his keys).
I picked up my daughter and headed downstairs, when I opened the door there was a woman stood there, she looked quite friendly. I immediately said, "I'm really sorry but I can't do this now, I'm trying to get my daughter down for a nap, so I need to go". She said she used to live at our house, and there should have been some post for her. I said I was sorry but we hadn't had any post delivered for anyone other than us recently, and we always wrote return to sender with anything for the previous people who lived here. As I was closing the door she said but it was months ago that it would have been sent here, it was membership for the national trust that had been renewed and sent to her old address. I again explained that we hadn't had anything for her and I had to go. She then said all she wanted was her letter and why wouldn't I give it to her? I then got annoyed and snapped at her that I didn't have her letter, we hadn't received anything like it and I had to go as I was having a bad day, I needed to get my daughter to sleep. I said I was sorry I couldn't help her and shut the door in her face.
I know my reaction wasn't great, and had I been feeling normal I probably wouldn't have been as rude, but now I'm feeling guilt about taking out my exhaustion and frustration on a total random person. Although I think my reaction might also have been influenced by the fact that when her and her friends moved out of the house - a year ago - they totally trashed it (paint all over the carpets, penises drawn on the walls) and it took us a lot of time and money to fix before we were able to move in.
So mumsnet jury, was I a total cowbag and completely unreasonable? Or slightly justified? I am happy to accept your verdict either way.
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SouperTrooper · 02/07/2016 16:05
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