I'm a regular but have name changed for this.
I live in a block of 4 flats; 2 on one side of the builiding, 2 on the other with a communal hallway to access them all. We're in flat 3, which is on the first floor, opposite is flat 4. Flats 1 and 2 are on the ground floor. We're above flat 1. Flat 1 is a single woman in her 60's.
I've just had a text from Flat 1's daughter who I thought was my friend. She's basically told me that my DH "intimidates" her mum, and that her mum is "disturbed" at night by our 1 year old DD crying. She says we argue "all the time" and she's had enough of her mum being in tears about the neighbours from hell.
The thing is I don't see what the problem actually is.
Flat 1 works long hours, we understand and try to be as respectful as possible. We never use our washing machine after 8pm, never shout to each other in different rooms, and have a carpet in all rooms except the kitchen and bathroom where we have tiles which are supposed to be sound proof. I put the TV on the lowest volume I can with subtitles on at all times to stop it being a problem.
Our dd wakes up maybe once a night; she's in the room which is directly above Flat 1's bathroom with our bedroom above hers. We did this deliberately so DD didn't disturb her. However DDs been ill recently so waking up more, I do everything I can to keep her quiet though; give her a dummy, do not allow her to stand up in her cot or shake the cot bars as they would bang against the wall, she doesn't have toys in her cot and we sit with her until she's asleep to stop her shouting for me/DH. Apparently Flat 1 can still hear her and isn't happy.
Apparently she can also hear us (DH and I) arguing. Yes, we argue. But I'd say it's no more than other couples based on Flat's 2 and 3 who're both couples. And we don't usually shout anyway as DDs generally asleep and we don't want to wake her.
She hears bangs and crashes. I have explained several times that I am dyspraxic so my co-ordination isn't brilliant; I bang into things, I knock things over, I trip over air. I can't help it. I try my best to control it, but sometimes it just happens.
I try and keep DD happy in the day as she's then not crying/shouting. We go out most days anyway and DH works so it's just the lazy cat who sleeps on the windowsill for most of the day.
I just feel so awful because of what Flat 1's daughter has said to us. We try so hard to be quiet. I'm doing the things I've always done, as this is what my parents did when they lived in rented flats.
I'm worried that we'll get reported to our landlord and potentially thrown out in what basically amounts to my daughter crying and an argument maybe once a month. We don't have a garden but do have a small balcony that I occasionally stand on and watch the world go by generally while DD naps or sleeps at night.
AIBU or are we the neighbours from hell?
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ButtonsAndChocolate · 17/06/2016 22:18
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