I've name changed for this as I've spoken about it in real life so it's identifying.
I'm expecting our first baby at the end of July and we've been invited to a wedding at the beginning of August (13 days after due date). It's a relaxed affair and within walking distance of our house. The couple are happy for us to show up on the day to any part or no part at all depending on if I'm still in hospital or just too tired to go etc. and happy for baby to come too (they offer induction at 40+12 here). So that's great.
We mentioned to MIL in passing that we were invited to a wedding that day but we would just be seeing how it went as if I went over due it would be unlikely we could go and we might not want to take the baby out to a wedding if it's only a couple of days old anyway.
She said immediately that of course we would be able to go as she would be around and could take the baby all day and over night anyway. I reminded her that that would really be impossible as I will be breastfeeding, she replied well breastfeeding might not work for you anyway so nothing wrong with a bottle (of course there's nothing wrong with a bottle but at a couple of days old my milk will only just be coming in anyway). I said that even if I ended up FF for whatever reason I think that the baby will be too tiny to leave with anyone at that early stage. Obviously we don't know how many days or weeks old the baby will be at this point but tbh even if it's born at 37 weeks I still don't think I'd leave a 5 week old either.
Anyway I seem to have upset her and she asked my husband if I didn't trust her to look after a baby. (I think my husband should probably have told her not to be silly and then never mentioned the conversation to me but it's done now).
Surely I'm not being unreasonable to not want to leave a baby that could potentially only be a couple of days old with anyone? I wouldn't leave the baby with my mum either at that early stage so it's not like I'm favouring my side. I'm just really surprised that she thinks it's because I don't trust her. I honestly didn't think it was normal to leave a tiny baby with anyone?
Also if it helps gain perspective she's mentioned a couple of times that she will be round every day during my maternity leave to help (even before the baby is born). I know she is excited but I feel suffocated already.
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user1465387977 · 08/06/2016 13:41
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