First ever AIBU so please don't rip my head off!
So I've had a number of piercings for many many years since I was a teenager. I wear a stud in my nose all the time as it heals over quickly if left out. But the 9 in my ears, I tend to leave out most of the time and put a few in to suit my mood. I don't normally wear studs in all 9 piercings at once.
Yesterday I put all my studs in at once, on a whim. I decided I liked them all together and left them in.
DH (who knew about my piercings when we first met, but has probably never seen them all in together until yesterday) said to me "Christ, do you thing you're wearing enough earrings?" To which I replied "yes thanks", lightheartedly. He went off on one, saying I was setting a bad example to DD (9) and that I looked "tacky and horrible", and that it was a "major turn off" to see a woman with "chunks of metal hanging off her". All this was said within earshot of DD. DD doesn't have her ears pierced, on his say-so, but will probably go behind his back and get them done at some point within the next few years.
So, I simply responded, I didn't get to my age by listening to rude, over-critical comments about my appearance. He refused to speak to me for the rest of the evening.
This morning, he asked what we could do tomorrow. I responded, "unless you can apologise and mean it, for outwardly criticising my appearance and choices, you can do something on your own". To which he went off on one again, about me "trying to be 18 all over again" (FWIW I was way past 18 before he even met me...) and how unattractive and artificial I look with metal sticking out of me. To my shame I then lost the moral high ground by snapping "well I don't like you in shorts, with your gut and skinny legs, but I keep my mouth shut about it for the sake of politeness!"
He then wittered on for an eternity several minutes about how I'd hit a nerve, made him worry about his appearance, hurt his feelings etc. He's now gone out with the kids, and I'm at home fuming.
I know IWBU to lose the moral high ground so spectacularly (and I will apologise to him when I've calmed down) but AIBU to expect an apology from him also?
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PiercingsAndPosing · 29/05/2016 09:15
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