So, DD1 is 6. She has a friend called, let's say Katie, and another friend called Amy. Katie and my DD are both quite gentle, Amy has a... stronger personality. At their last play date she was horrible to my DD2, whispering things like, "Why is your sister so WEIRD?" to DD1 while they were having tea, while staring at DD2. DD2, who is 4, got quite upset.
There's another girl in class who is quite emotional, Jane, and (according to DD1) Amy tells her things like that her jumper is stupid, why does she wear stupid stuff, nothing abusive per se, but they're 6!
DD1 loves Amy (grrr), but the relationship is complex - typical threesome which is such a bad number for girls. If DD and Katie don't do as Amy tells them she runs off crying, then they have to console her, or she says she won't be their friend.
This am I found a note in her bag saying sorry for not playing with her during break and asking Amy to still be her friend. Turns out that yesterday DD, Katie and a couple of others were playing a game Amy didn't want to play. They refused to stop their game so Amy 'had to play by herself' and blanked DD for the rest of the day.
I love women, I'm a girl's girl, but I hate that female Mindgame shit . I can't believe it's started already. I feel like in 20 years time DD1 is going to be writing that recent MN thread about the WhatsApp group and the present and not being invited to the party.
AIBU to tell the teacher as it's teacher's evening next week and hope she can, do something? Am I being:
a) PFB (probably)
b) Naive
c) wasting teacher's time (but it's a very small class of 15)
c) To say something about Jane. She is vulnerable as is - though is it OK to take a 6 year old's word on something?
if I don't say anything, is there anything I can do or do I accept it as part of life's rich tapestry of women being vile to women as it will happen throughout her life?
Amy's mum is very nice but an absolute Tiger Mum, my gut instinct is that she would dismiss anything i had to say and be pissed off that I brought it up. Perhaps rightly so?
I'm still so new to this child-rearing thing. Help me! Also Please be gentle with me, I never normally post in AIBU...!
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I didn't know the mindgames would start so soon...
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WhatHo · 19/05/2016 09:28
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