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To take Dc(1) along to a party DC2 was invited too?

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grumpalumpgrumped Sun 15-May-16 08:37:23

DS2(4) has a party invite today, Dh has been called into work, my parents are away.

Will to take DS1(7) along, with his Ds, some snacks and a book. He knows he can't join in, eat the party food or get a party bag.

Was going to text the mum but don't want to put her in an awkward position?

grumpalumpgrumped Sun 15-May-16 08:38:05

Wibu not will - Stupid autocorrect

reallybadidea Sun 15-May-16 08:38:31

Can't you just drop DC2 off and come back for them later?

grumpalumpgrumped Sun 15-May-16 08:38:47

Will of course text her if the consensus is that this is ok and check

CodyKing Sun 15-May-16 08:38:50

I've don't this - most normal parents understand that you have other kids to look after - where's the party?

rosepetaltea Sun 15-May-16 08:38:52

What sort of party?

AtSea1979 Sun 15-May-16 08:39:08

Is it at a house? Can't you drop off?

scottishegg Sun 15-May-16 08:39:30

I would text she maybe happy for him to join in, if not then there may be the possibility of leaving him there, I think 7 is plenty old enough to be left if the other mother doesn't mind.

RougeEtNoir Sun 15-May-16 08:39:37

Will DS2 not be ok to be left at the party?

grumpalumpgrumped Sun 15-May-16 08:39:41

Don't think he will stay on his own, no one else drops off and leaves yet and he has asthma and allergies so don't feel it's fair.

Brainnotbrawn Sun 15-May-16 08:39:56

Do you have to stay or can you drop and run. I would take him off for a treat somewhere if you can leave if not well you have no choice. Just make sure he stays away from the party.

bakeoffcake Sun 15-May-16 08:40:20

Where is the party? If it's in a public place it would be ok for him to go along but obviously not join in. If it's in her home you do need to text her and explain the situation. I'm sure she'll be fine with it.

roundtable Sun 15-May-16 08:40:26

Text her saying what's happened and that you can either bring sibling who will entertain himself/eat own snacks or regretfully you won't be able to attend due to unexpected childcare issues.

You can't just turn up with him imo.

Hope you get it sorted.

grumpalumpgrumped Sun 15-May-16 08:40:27

Hall party, hmmmm what to do.

HandWash Sun 15-May-16 08:40:49

If you're are staying anyway then I can't see it making much difference. 7 is old enough to understand you can't join in.

Where is the party? If a hall with plenty of space then I'm sure it'll be fine.

Coconutty Sun 15-May-16 08:40:51

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PeaceLoveGonk Sun 15-May-16 08:41:06

Yes text the party mum.

cheeseandcrackers Sun 15-May-16 08:41:18

I can't see any parent having a problem with that

ohnoppp Sun 15-May-16 08:41:23

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Muskateersmummy Sun 15-May-16 08:41:29

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest if a mum did this at dd's party. In fact it did last year. I always have a spare party bag made up just in case this happens.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Sun 15-May-16 08:42:09

I know you say he will sit reading a book but he'll be mightily tempted to join in. That would piss me off if I was party mum although of course I wouldn't say so!

I'd leave the attendee and pop put with ds1, at least for a while.

Misty9 Sun 15-May-16 08:43:03

I would just text and ask in advance. If it's in a hall then I'm sure the more the merrier!

grumpalumpgrumped Sun 15-May-16 08:43:27

Will text her and explain and see what she says. DS2 is so excited.

Gizlotsmum Sun 15-May-16 08:43:49

I would send a quick text, I wouldn't have a problem with that if it wasn't a pay per head thing. I would emphasis you didn't expect him to be included

KnockMeDown Sun 15-May-16 08:45:47

I have done parties at home where parents have brought older siblings along, and I wouldn't dream of excluding them or not feeding them. However, I would definitely appreciate knowing beforehand if extras are coming.

If the party is somewhere where numbers need to be known in advance, then it's more tricky.

Bottom line is definitely let them know beforehand.

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