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Would you sell your house to a registered sex offender?

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TiffanyBonj · 25/04/2016 11:36

We've got a big move coming up and thought we had the house all sorted out, we've just been informed by our agency that the possible buyer has disclosed that she is currently registered on the sex offender's list.

I was . She's married with two really young kids, and seemed like a decent person, we don't know what to do now.

Are we allowed to ask her for more information? I don't know anything about the sex offender's registry, are people on their for the rest of their lives? Do you think they can change? Her being on the registry is the only reason we would turn down their offer, their's no way I would ever want to put children at risk, but is that unreasonable?

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murphyslaws · 25/04/2016 11:38

Difficult position. If I had other buyers lined up I would offer to them.

I don't think I would sell to her. But how do you even know she is on register

Sparrowlegs248 · 25/04/2016 11:42

'are you on the sex offenders register' is a question in many application forms so she may have had to disclose it to the agents at some point. Not sure that they should have shared that info with you though.

You can be on the register for variable lengths of time depending on the severity and risk. Some people for life, for horrific crimes. Some for a year for 'less serious' crimes. It could be anything.

MerrilySlidingAway · 25/04/2016 11:42

Did she have to.disclose it ?? Sounds very odd.

KayTee87 · 25/04/2016 11:43

I would want to know the circumstances of her being on the register in the first place. Was it definitely an offence against children? there are other reasons someone could be on it I'm sure (although they're all unsavoury obviously). If she was a paedophile and I had children living nearby then I think I would have to turn the offer down.

KayTee87 · 25/04/2016 11:43

I would want to know the circumstances of her being on the register in the first place. Was it definitely an offence against children? there are other reasons someone could be on it I'm sure (although they're all unsavoury obviously). If she was a paedophile and I had children living nearby then I think I would have to turn the offer down.

RidersOnTheStorm · 25/04/2016 11:44

Perhaps she's rehabilitated. I'd sell.

JaneAustinAllegro · 25/04/2016 11:44

google. Shagged a willing 16 year old boy? probably. Beyond that - my neighbours have kids, all of whom I am very fond of. So no. Slightly amazed that the estate agent had to disclose that to you. (she's got to live somewhere, and presumably has to hang at the school gates to collect her own children)

GiddyOnZackHunt · 25/04/2016 11:44

If she has her own dc then presumably she can't be that much of a risk to children though? Wouldn't they be removed?
Difficult one.

TiffanyBonj · 25/04/2016 11:45

Murphy, I've already said in the post that she told our agency, who then told us. We do have other buyers but she and her DH are willing to pay substantially more than those buyers.

Nottalotta, I don't want to turn down a seemingly nice family but then I don't want to take the risk, either, do you think I could ask her, or would that be rude?

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celeste83 · 25/04/2016 11:46

If i was close to my neighbours and if i had someone else interested then i would refuse to sell to the sex offender.

MerrilySlidingAway · 25/04/2016 11:46

Google her name ??

KayTee87 · 25/04/2016 11:46

jane shagging a willing 16 year old wouldn't put you onto the register - unless she was the boys teacher or something similar.
It could be an offence against an adult - sexual assault, flashing, peeping Tom, or even something like having sex in a public place.

CraziestOfCatLadies · 25/04/2016 11:46

The fact that she has two really young children who are presumably living with her says she can't be considered a high risk.

As said, none of the reasons to be on the List are savoury but some are deemed more acceptable than others.

Ifailed · 25/04/2016 11:47

Presumably she's on the register because she did something 'wrong' in the past. Plenty of people have convictions because they did something wrong, would you ask a potential buyer for their criminal record?

DinosaursRoar · 25/04/2016 11:47

Well, if she was a risk to children, wouldn't her own dcs have been removed?

I would say she has to live somewhere, assuming you aren't moving with in the same street, does it effect you if it's this street or the next one?

TiffanyBonj · 25/04/2016 11:47

Giddy, that is very true, she can't be that dangerous, if her kids haven't been removed.

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Shirkingfromhome · 25/04/2016 11:48

Hypothetically speaking I wouldn't as I live opposite a school but you would have to consider individual circumstances.

Are registered paedophiles allowed to keep custody of their children? I have no idea about these things.

SimpleSimonThePieMan · 25/04/2016 11:48

Why would you even care? Her money's as good as anyone else's. Unless it would cause some problem with the sale?

TiffanyBonj · 25/04/2016 11:51

Google only brings up her Facebook page, nothing more, so it couldn't have been that bad?

Dinosaur, it doesn't effect me at all, our neighbours have teens but they're 17 and above, so I don't think it'll effect them either

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mrsnoon · 25/04/2016 11:52

I know someone who was put on the register for flashing after being caught having a drunken wee in someone's garden, when the homeowner caught him he turned round to face her and carried on weeing. Not very nice at all but not something a lot of people would consider a serious sexual offence. So possibly something far less serious than you are imagining.

KayTee87 · 25/04/2016 11:53

The sex offenders register isn't a list of people who have committed sexual offenders against children. It is people who have committed a sexual offence again children or adults. It's just there seems to be some confusion and it might sway the ops opinion knowing what the offence was.

TiffanyBonj · 25/04/2016 11:53

SimpleSimon, I really want to sell to her but I don't want to put a child at risk, that's the only reason I'm hesitating, but the more I read people's post, the more convinced I am that I should just sell.

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witsender · 25/04/2016 11:54

I don't understand why this is any of your business? I also don't understand why if she is buying, she even had to disclose it, what does it have to do with the agency or anyone else? Renting I could understand slightly more, but buying?

I'd sell, why wouldn't I?

KayTee87 · 25/04/2016 11:54

You could always phone up your local police office and see if they will tell you what it was for? Worst they can do is say no.

Lostatseed · 25/04/2016 11:55

she and her DH are willing to pay substantially more than those buyers

This is all that matters. You're selling a house, not protecting all of humanity.

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