My mother said you should never ever wish that on anyone. So I'm ashamed and bracing myself for all the hateful backlash I might get. But please hear me out, I'm desperate in need of some advice and support.
This man, the father of my 5 yo DD physically, emotionally and mentally abused me over a seven year relationship ending with one day when he beat me senseless on the floor while my daughter was in the bath alone aged 2. I called the police, he was arrested and charged with assault.
I have left him three years ago. Despite me caring for DD 80% of the time in that 3 year separation, he won 50/50 custody in court. It hurt like hell but I have sucked it up; I work hard in a excellent job, study, see friends, do all my chores so when DD is back I can be the best mum I can be.
In March following three months of text and email abuse saying i was a failure of a mother, fat, ugly, useless etc I reported him to the police again for harassment. He got a warning and his response was to report me back to the police, and to social services for child abuse. This also hurt but they had the sense to see it for what it was and dismiss him.
As a result I now only communicate with him via his girlfriend. (Yes he has a girlfriend, of 2 years, they are living together and trying for a baby. I met her and really liked her, how is she not running for the hills!). She is capable of keeping communication business like and I am hugely grateful for that.
However, he keeps finding new and creative ways to hurt me: keeping back uniform so i have none, blocking me from face timing DD when shes been with him for a week, calling me fat on the doorstep when i pick her up and this week he has kept back her first reading response book and won't let me borrow it to take pictures. Sounds insignificant, but she is in reception; it documents her transition from angelic chimp, to reading, writing little pupil and her dad has not done any of her homework with her. It represents hours of my time investing in her drawing and writing and maths and the pictures and stories are so lovely and ooze sentimental value. And I am in bits, crying about a little book?!
And so I had that horrible thought flicker in my mind that this is how its going to be for the rest of my life, him finding new ways to be spiteful and nasty because i left him and he is bitter. And i know its a terrible thing to think, and I don't think i really want him dead, I just want to live without this constant torment.
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frecklesagogo · 15/04/2016 09:57
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