DP has a family member getting married in the summer (not a sibling or parent) and we have been invited.
It's 3 hours away by train, and we would need to go the night before to have any chance of getting to the ceremony on time, and stay the night of the wedding too, so 2 nights away. It's also speciality clothing that would need to be hired or bought, and we'd be buying a gift, food and drink are paid for by us too.
Its to expensive, 2 adults and 3 children on a train is £220, a family room in a B&B for two nights is close to £200 and that's without the extra costs. One of the Dc has SN and wouldn't cope with the travel very well. I will also be heavily pregnant. Plus, it's two weeks after our family holiday and a week after Dc's birthday, we just can't afford it.
Even if Dp goes alone and stays for one night, it's £110 travel and £140 hotel. Plus clothing, gift and food/drinks. I've tried looking for cheaper hotels but it's holiday season in a very popular place, and there's not much to be found. Tbh even just the cost of the train fare is to much.
I really like the couple who are getting married and I would love to see them, their wedding sounds like it will be amazing. We just can't go though. Very kindly they offered us some money towards it, we hadn't said we couldn't afford it but I think they realise that it's going to cost a fair bit. Even so, it's just to much.
I feel like the bad guy in saying no. Dp is disappointed, but it's me that does all the budgeting and he seems to think that money grows on trees. We don't have a lot of money but I save up and shop carefully, I'm saving for our holiday spending money at the moment, I've nothing spare to save up for the wedding.
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I don't think IABU about not going to this wedding
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Obliviated · 09/04/2016 22:25
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