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Birthday party etiquette - poll ?

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IncognitoFajito Mon 04-Jan-16 19:18:22

Quick yes or no. DD1 birthday in a couple weeks .

She has two cousins similar age who she rarely sees . Maybe 3 to 4 times per year . They live close by . No other family so it will just be school friends .

We would like to keep numbers down due to cost .

Do I invite them to her party ? confused

Chamonix1 Mon 04-Jan-16 19:19:17


5madthings Mon 04-Jan-16 19:20:42

No nor if it's a school friends party, you can see them.another day around her bday?

I mean you can if you want but you don't sound particularly close? Does dd want to invite them?

wineoclockthanks Mon 04-Jan-16 19:22:27

No to the party, possibly invite them around for tea. (Assuming she hasn't been invited to all their parties).

SanityClause Mon 04-Jan-16 19:23:17

No need, if she rarely sees them.

Janek Mon 04-Jan-16 19:24:34

No, they won't know anyone, they'll hate it!

AutumnLeavesArePretty Mon 04-Jan-16 19:24:43

Yes, time is short at times so any chance to catch up with family should be taken.

Cressandra Mon 04-Jan-16 19:25:48

Sorry, I think this depends on your family. Does she get invited to their parties?

Tantrictantrum Mon 04-Jan-16 19:26:44


WipsGlitter Mon 04-Jan-16 19:27:23


Sparkletastic Mon 04-Jan-16 19:27:52


CremeEggThief Mon 04-Jan-16 19:27:56


IncognitoFajito Mon 04-Jan-16 19:28:29

For the first party DD1 had we invited them .

For their DDs party , they had school friends and then did a separate family tea . We didn't attend family tea as we had already plans .

cariadlet Mon 04-Jan-16 19:29:20

Not unless dd is asking for them to come. If they live fairly near but you only see them a few times a year then they can't be that close so you shouldn't feel obliged. They might feel a bit awkward at the party as the school friends will all know each other.

NorthernRosie Mon 04-Jan-16 19:29:44

No, but then I never see my cousins and couldn't care less!

ClemFandagoDoesTheTango Mon 04-Jan-16 19:30:12

Did she get invited to her cousins' parties?

MsColouring Mon 04-Jan-16 19:31:25

It depends - are they similar age? Is it a specific activity with limited numbers?

ClemFandagoDoesTheTango Mon 04-Jan-16 19:32:47

Cross post.

I would probably invite them then.

IncognitoFajito Mon 04-Jan-16 19:33:22

DD hasn't mentioned them coming - they don't really know each other , other than for an hours meet up a few times a year.

I will offer for our DDs to get together for a tea . That should be ok shouldn't it ?

Fixinggood Mon 04-Jan-16 19:34:39

No. My dds are close to their cousins. See them weekly but school parties now are just for school friends. It's a weird dynamic otherwise, in my experience.

formerbabe Mon 04-Jan-16 19:34:51

No...I wouldn't invite them.

IncognitoFajito Mon 04-Jan-16 19:35:10

It's an activity that doesn't have a set limit , but the activity would be better with less children iykwim?

It's also charged per head .

Quiero Mon 04-Jan-16 19:35:34


Wildernessrock Mon 04-Jan-16 19:37:26

No, they won't know anyone. I might do a seperate family tea party and invite them to that.

eddielizzard Mon 04-Jan-16 19:46:08

no don't invite. do separate family tea.

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