NC for this cus I think dh knows my usual name.
Basically since I had my ds 9 months ago, my dsd and dss haven't been to stay with us. They come every second Sunday for the day, but they also used to stay occasionally on a Saturday.
My dh works every fri and sat night so it was me that looked after them, they are teens so don't need looking after as such, but obviously just to supervise as my dh often doesn't arrive home til 2/3am from work.
I suppose my issue is this- before I had ds, I loved the dsc coming to stay, I used to often suggest it, I had a brilliant laugh with them, and I genuinely didn't mind tidying up after them, even after a long day at work. But now I do. I resent the extra dishes that no one offers to even take through to the kitchen. I resent all the cups and plates and spoons that get used and then just ditched in the sink for me to wash. I resent the clothes that get left lying around the house, rather than being put in the machine. Sweet wrappers stay on the couch/floor til I ask them to put them in the bin.
It's partly my fault, I used to run about after them because I didn't mind but now I find it too stressful on top of looking after ds. They stayed a couple of times after ds was born but I have now told dh that until they start helping out they are not staying. Now they never ask
to stay but I am not being a skivvy while dh is at work. How do I get things to change?
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To expect the dsc to help out?
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wontyoupleasepleasehelpme · 28/11/2015 22:03
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