DP & I have had an awful 3 weeks.
His ex-wife decided that he was no longer having contact with his 3 kids.
They have lived with us one week on, one week off for 2 years.
It started when DP couldn't collect them earlier (for genuine reasons) to enable her to go to a show. She told DP that because of his unreasonable behaviour in collecting the kids he would not see them at all!
DP went to collect as normal and the children had been shipped off to her mothers.
Her new husband gave him a barrage of abuse 'I'm a better dad than you' etc etc
DP came home from this and sobbed his heart out. And has been crying a lot lately due to missing his kids.
Of course we spoke to a solicitor who wrote to ex-wife. But for 3 weeks she has kept DP from seeing the boys - he has not been allowed to go round, has not been allowed to collect them for extra-curricular stuff, no phonecalls, nothing.
Me and DP being msierable, DD constantly asking where her 'brothers' are and me having to explain that they are spending time with mummy and will be home one day soon.
So yesterday, a message comes out the blue that DP can collect this weekend and all to go back to week on week off as normal!
We are of course over the moon and cannot wait to see them.
I cannot believe what she has put us through these past weeks, no apology, no explanation and now all must go back to normal because she has seen fit to 'allow' DP to see his kids.
We have made a payment on account (£500) at the solicitors, and they have only used 1.5 hours. We should have got 8 hours. I suggested using the remaining to get something formal in writing so that she couldn't pull another stunt like this, but DP says No, he doesn't want to rock the boat!
So she can whip the kids away any moment, I try to pick up the pieces and then it's all lovely again. Who can live like this?
AIBU to be a little peeved?
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So she just gets away with it.
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PaleBlueDot · 24/11/2015 15:05
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