Some of you may remember my thread about the inlaws behaviour which resulted in me unfollowing them on FB, excluding them from any posts and my DH finally telling his sister and Mum that their behaviour stinks. (Trying to find the thread to link to!)
Eventually, I included them on my posts again and had some nice comments which are surprising as most of his sister's comments had been particularly not nice. Anyway, it has all been on an even keel and I've actually been pleasantly surprised at how nice they have been of late.
So the beast that is Christmas has arisen. DH usually works one of Christmas/New Year. We had said prior to the above and following last christmas that we wouldnt go down to visit his parents at Christmas when he sister was there too. The only time we can go down this year is when his sister is there. Fine. It's good things are on an even keel and we are happy to be there providing she is civil - which I think she will be.
One issue that we have is that she arrives on the day that we would also arrive. It's a 3 bedroom house. The guests will be me, dh, ds, sil and her husband and her 2 children. Usually when we have been before and SIL is there, she will have the larger of the 2 bedrooms and her children the smaller one meaning we have had to book into a hotel. This was partly the reason for saying we wouldnt visit when SIL was there again say it costs us IRO £120 for hotel, food, diesel just to stay for the weekend (2 nights).
So, do we book a hotel this year or stay with the family? DH told his Mum a few days ago and nothing has been forthcoming with "You can stay here" but nothing has been said about us booking a hotel either. Part of me wants to carry on with the hotel as it gives us some privacy, doesnt depend on SIL being "kind" and offering up a room, and also means we don't have to stay in the living room. But then after the recent issues, part of me thinks just bite the bullet and do the family thing. Just as a side note, when we do go at other times of the year when SIL isnt there, we stay at ILs.
I asked DH about it and he said he wasn't sure what we were doing. So I costed up the hotel and told him. I said about had his Mum mentioned anything and he said no. I said I wondered if she assumed we were staying in a hotel and maybe we could book the hotel but go up to ILs for breakfast. DH said something about how we never normally do that and have breakfast at the hotel.
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to be stuck between staying at ILs or a hotel at Xmas....
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cjt110 · 23/11/2015 11:18
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