I've name changed for this as don't want it linking to my other threads.
I'm pregnant and have a 3yo DD. My mum supports a lot with my DD in general and with childcare. We see each other 3+ times a week.
DD currently goes to nursery and this will be continuing when I go on maternity leave to keep up her routine etc although will be getting upped with the government funding hours just before I'm due.
My mum has said throughout my pregnancy she would have DD when I'm in labour and at hospital and offered to help out with nursery picks ups/drop offs when I'm on mat leave because I need to get the bus to do them and I was worried about how I'll manage heavily pregnant and because DD arrived 3wks early and I'd spoken to her about how anxious I was that this could happen again.
She told me a few weeks ago that she's now going abroad on holiday the immediate 2 weeks before I'm due. At first I was surprised that she'd chosen this time to go but don't grudge her a holiday and really appreciate everything she does. I did ask why that particular time and she said so she'd be back for the baby coming to help out however she arrives back 2 days before the baby's due date and DD was 3 weeks early.
I thought I was okay about it but now I can't stop worrying and can't sleep for thinking about it. I don't know what DH and I are going to do if I go into labour before she's back. I'm worried I might have to go to hospital myself so he can be with DD.
In the past few weeks I've started worrying about the labour (I'm terrified) but knew at least DD would be looked after and DH would be with me. Now I'm a wreck, can't stop crying and not sleeping panicking about how I'm going to manage the nursery run and what will happen if I go into labour early as with DD.
I just don't understand why she'd decide to go away at this particular time? I've spoken to other family members about helping out but one fell out with me for asking and the others hardly see DD anyway and work full time and I can't guarantee when I'll need them so it's a logistical nightmare.
I know people do this all the time so I'm prepared to be told I'm def BU, a spoiled brat etc. Any advice would be welcome.
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scribblepop · 19/11/2015 08:40
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