DP comparing our wedding with an ffing festival

[Marilynz]

DP is obsessed with a certain big festival. I 'like' it but I see it for what it is - a long weekend in a field with a few good bands playing. Nothing magical for me but I go because I know how much he loves it.

This year, the line up is shit and the ONLY think I was looking forward to has cancelled last minute. Noting that a few of DP's arse kissed glasto friends friends were complaining about it on facebook - and he was agreeing with them - I admitted I was disappointed and said he only thing I was looking forward to has cancelled. He had a right face on over it and this was two nights ago.

Obviously he's holding a grudge because he's just said that my comment is the same as him saying he wasn't looking forward to our honeymoon as the weather forecast is shit and that was the only thing he was looking forward to.

How the FUCK is that the same thing? I'm livid. I told him I found that a bit offensive that he compares a music festival to our wedding plans and he decided that he finds my conversation boring and would not discuss the topic further. Absolute knob.

[CrystalHaze]

I'm livid. I told him I found that a bit offensive that he compares a music festival to our wedding plans and he decided that he finds my conversation boring and would not discuss the topic further. Absolute knob.

This sounds like a bit of an over-reaction. Is there more to it than just this?

[Marilynz]

Over reaction from me or him?

[CrystalHaze]

From you. I can't see what you're 'livid' about

[ahfuckit]

This rings a bell. Have you posted about his obsession with this festival before?

[blackteaplease]

Why are you marrying this man? Every thread you start is as a result over an arguement about Glastonbury. I don't think you are right for each other at all.

[meglet]

if there's a spare ticket going I'll have it .

[ahfuckit]

And I can absolutely see what you are livid about!

[AuntyMag10]

This sounds familiar op have you posted about him before?
Anyway i don't think yabu for being upset at comparing a festival to your wedding! And the only thing he was looking forward to was the weather that would really upset me.

[littleflick]

You're being very OTT.

[Marilynz]

I'm livid about the fact that our wedding plans/honeymoon is being compared to a music festival. FFS I'm sick to death of being told that I can have no opinion whatsoever on glastonbury because it is the pilgrimage of all that is holy - but to say it's as important as our honeymoon?

[AuntyMag10]

Just clicked with your other threads and I can't see what you see in this man.

[CaptainAnkles]

So he belittles your achievements, accuses you of flirting with any man you happen to speak to, and sulks for days because you dared to say something vaguely negative about a music festival - and you're marrying him?

[cariadlet]

Sounds like you're overreacting to me. He obviously loves the festival, it's important to him and you have said that the only thing that you are looking forward to is cancelled. This is pretty much telling him that you won't enjoy the festival.

He's trying to make you understand how your reaction made him feel. He doesn't say that he isn't looking forward to your honeymoon. He's asking you to empathise with him and to make it easier he tried to ask you how you would feel if the situation was reversed.

He's not moaning about your wedding. He isn't even moaning about the honeymoon. Although, to be honest, I do see a honeymoon as just a holiday albeit one to celebrate your special day.

I think you're being very precious and feel sorry for your DP. Sounds like you're the one holding a grudge to me.

[Annarose2014]

Oh you're the Glastonbury widow, aren't you? Not sure why you keep being so suprised when this stuff comes up time and again. Its Michael Eavis he wants to be married to, not you.

[Idontseeanydragons]

So he's pissed off at you because you don't like Glastonbury as much as he does and he doesn't feel you have the right to comment about it, is that right? So to be uber pissy about one comment from you he makes a snidey remark about your wedding that doesn't make much sense?
If I got that right YANBU, he's being very immature. And frankly if if booked to see the Foo Fighters and got Florence & the Machines I'd be moaning on FB as well!

[wallaby73]

Just commented on your other thread - today you passed your degree, major milestone, and he's kicking off about a fucking festival? Seriously, don't marry this guy!

[EhricLovesTheBhrothers]

What the others said. Your wedding has never been as important to him as Glastonbury has it?

[Numtum]

I think you're overreacting a bit too if I'm honest. I'd be quite gutted if the weather forecast for a holiday is booked was to be shit, honeymoon or not. Sorry!

[Annabannbobanna]

I think you overreacted. A honeymoon is just a holiday really.

[Numtum]

Fwiw I think he's overreacting too.

[CrystalHaze]

Nope, still not getting it. Irritated, perhaps. But "livid"?

[Marilynz]

It's not about the weather. It's about the fact that he sees glastonbury as been on par with our wedding. That's how important it is to him.

And he says "how would you feel if .... " - so the wedding is MY thing is it? not ours? I'm seriously starting to wonder why I bother.

[ImperialBlether]

Is this still going on? OP, I remember your other threads and I'd give up on this guy if I were you.

[Mitzimaybe]

I haven't read your other thread(s) but, reading this one, I can't see why you want to marry him. Presumably he has some good points?

[AuntyMag10]

He's showing you who he is! Doesn't support you in your achievements, you've had major hassles with this festival nonsense and your wedding. Doesn't seem he's a great partner at all. You know this before marrying him and if you choose to go ahead then you can't complain.