To think it's weird that my houseguest took all the guest-toiletries?

[SummerOfLadybirds]

We often have overnight guests so I keep a basket of spare toiletries in guest-room (in case they forget anything) and tell them to use whatever they need. Most people use a couple of things, some don't use anything, and I re-stock it between guests.
Recently my close friend stayed for 3 nights and when she left the basket was completely empty! AIBU to find this a bit cheeky and odd? Or did she think it was a basket of 'complimentary products' like hotels provide? I stocked the basket well (she's scatty and tends to forget things, so i expected a few products to be used but not for every item to vanish!)

Basket contained: new full-size pack of Olay cleansing wipes, mini bottle make-up remover, toothbrush, dental floss, lipsalve (all 3 in sealed packets), plastic comb, travel-size body-lotion, body-wipes, spray deodorant, some Clinique mini-products (free samples of make-up/creams that I collect and keep for guests) plus various sachets of moisturiser, BB creams, hair serum, facial scrub etc. Oh and a couple of individually-wrapped soaps, shower-caps and mini sewing-kits that I collected from hotels.

There is no way she could have used the whole lot in 3 days! If a friend provided a basket like this would you assume it was a gift for you to take home??

[MamaLazarou]

No way! Bloody cheek.

[BlueBee]

That's terrible!
It's such a lovely thing to do though OP, really thoughtful.

[forago]

no I would not! that's outrageous. id use what I needed, maybe take a half used bottle with me, that's it! so cheeky. id ask for the unopened stuff back.

[cozietoesie]

Very strange indeed. I do the same for guests and I've never had them use more than a few things - there's always stuff left in the bowl.

Is the rest of your house missing anything?

[FarelyKnuts]

Ha. Did she think you were a hotel? She's not scatty. She's a free loader!

[XiCi]

Wow, can't believe the cheek of some people. I'd be tempted to say to her 'I can't find all the guest toiletries, have you put them away somewhere?'

[AlternativeTentacles]

Is she close enough for you to say 'Where did you put all the stuff in the basket, we have someone staying over next week and I can't find it all!

[Jackie0]

Cheeky cow
Send her a B&B invoice

[expatinscotland]

As this is a close friend, ask her why she did this. It is very cheeky. That's a lot of stuff.

[LadyNym]

No, that's really cheeky of her! I don't like asking people for things so I tend to try and make sure I have everything I need when I go to stay with someone. I would maybe have used one or two things at most if I'd forgotten/run out of something (though, more likely I wouldn't have used anything) but there's no way in Hell I'd have cleared out the whole bloody basket!!

[PHANTOMnamechanger]

gosh, what a rude friend you have!

[pressone]

I do the same- provide baskets of toiletries, not pinch them. If something is opened then I think it is fair game to be taken home - or I'll use it myself (not lip-salve or toothbrush!) and replace with an unopened bottle.

To help yourself to the whole lot is greedy even theft.

[Fatmomma99]

Agree that's a lovely thoughtful thing to do.

Agree it's weird (to the point of funny) her stealing everything.

BUT, YBVU - you forgot tampons!

(and condoms! )

[ENormaSnob]

Theiving cow

[PHANTOMnamechanger]

oh and IF I had forgotten something like a toothbrush when visiting a friend, i would offer to pay for one of their spares, though I expect most friends would say no don't be silly.

How can she have thought "use what you need" was the same as "this is all for you, please take what you don't use home with you" ?

[Bunbaker]

It has never occurred to me to put out guest toiletries. It was cheeky of her to take them all, but then I don't take all the guest toiletries from hotels either. I might use them in situ, but would never take unopened bottles of shampoo etc away with me.

[PHANTOMnamechanger]

think yourself lucky she left the bedsheets!

[ThinkIveBeenHacked]

Maybe send a message "eek just realised the little emergency guest basket was empty, haha bet you were wondering why I left a random empty dish in your room. Whoops!" And see what she says!

[hiddenhome]

That is actually theft and I wouldn't have a thief in my house

Tell her to fucking send them back.

[GloGirl]

Wow, there's someone I'd never have back again!

[AgathaChristie01]

Nice idea to provide stuff, but IF she was staying again, I would leave nothing for her.

[grapejuicerocks]

Yes ask her as suggested above. Very strange behaviour. I don't think I would be able to view the friend in the same way, after pulling a stunt like that.

[Corygal]

Greedy guts. How off-putting. Do say something, though, and tell us all.

[cozietoesie]

It's a difficult one though - you leave things out for guests (although in anticipation that they likely won't need everything) so it seems churlish to moan when they use them. Very odd though to take the lot.

Is she really a close friend?