Have NC and about to go downstairs so won't be back for an hour or so.
MIL (white) here (UK), speaks very little English. Mostly we visit her abroad. FIL died five years ago and since then she goes on regular holidays to Kenya with similarly aged ladies (70s) - the other women go there explicitly for sex tourism. We think probably naively MIL just enjoys the attention, she pays various 'English teachers' to sit with her all day, tell her how good her English is and she sends them regular gifts when she goes home (she is wealthy) and enjoys showing her friends many emails from them telling her how much they love her and miss her etc. To me this is akin to Western men going to Thailand or similar for sex, I find it deeply exploitative and wrong.
She will periodically say, in a very loud voice (I had totally forgotten this before yesterday) "I love black men!!" In her home country, few understand, but she saw a group of black men last night (we were out for drinks, fortunately walking down the street), pointed at them, burst out cackling and shouted really loudly, "I LOVE BLACK MEN!!!" Because we know the context (of her holidays), we both found it cringy and told her that in English you don't really say that... but that's not exactly true. She didn't really understand so I think she will say it again.
If we told her it sounded racist in English she would be horrified and not say it, she doesn't know enough English to know whether or not that is true.
Honestly, if you heard someone shout this in the street, does it sound racist in any way or is it just because we know about the sex tourism that it sits uncomfortably with us? I think it comes across as pervy at the very least. She is here for two weeks so before all our neighbours start hating us I wanted to check. Last time we stayed with her for three days and she said it about four times. She loves talking about her holidays and the people she meets so it comes up a lot.
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Quick check - foreign MIL talking in English, does this come across as racist?
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20109NC · 21/12/2014 17:03
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