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fuckityfuckup Mon 01-Dec-14 21:15:37

Posting here for traffic. Dont really know where I should be posting it partially because I cant think straight and am doing it as quickly as I physically can before I throw up.

DH has taken an overdose. He has taken 16 tramadol and is on way to the hospital as we speak. I couldnt go with him as there was nobody to look after DC. I called his parents. They have gone with him. I feel like its my fault. I feel like nothing will ever be ok ever again. What is likely to be happening to him? How long will he be in for? What will he need doing to him? Im not likely to hear much from his parents while they are there, they are people that only use mobile phones in emergencies. My phone got broken tonight and so Ive got DHs here and am relying on his parents for contact. Im just so worried. I just want to so be there. Please tell me hes going to be ok??

fuckityfuckup Mon 01-Dec-14 21:16:09

And please move this post if needs be to somewhere more relevant where Im more likely to get any help.

SpringBreaker Mon 01-Dec-14 21:18:35

Ask your neighbour to babysit. It's an emergency and any decent person would help you.

traceybaybee Mon 01-Dec-14 21:18:42

When i took an overdose i left it longer than 12hrs so needed to get special fluids to reverse the damage (cue week in hospital) if he hasnt left a big gap between taking the tablets and getting help then he may well get his stomach pumped. Sorry to hear your going through this flowers xx

saiyme09 Mon 01-Dec-14 21:18:52

I didn't want to read and run hugs andflowers wine cake! I can't imagine how you must feel! Hear to listen

TrousersSchmowsers Mon 01-Dec-14 21:18:58

He will be okay, and so will you. He's in the right place. Are your DC still up?

InfinitySeven Mon 01-Dec-14 21:19:21

It'll depend entirely on his condition, and how it was affecting him.

They don't like to pump stomachs anymore so they'll want to put him on a drip. He will likely stay in for a few nights because he'll need immediate treatment along with assessment for what made him take an overdose.

There is no hard and fast rules, though. It depends on so many variable factors.

He's in the best place and he has his parents, he's not on his own. Do you need him for anything specific over the next few days? You'll probably need to make new plans and play it by ear.

LadyLuck10 Mon 01-Dec-14 21:20:00

You poor thing thanks. Can you get a friend or neighbour to come round to stay with dc? Nobody is going to say no in this situation.

LostInWales Mon 01-Dec-14 21:20:53

OK, as someone who takes tramadol on a daily basis not an expert or anything, I believe it's quite hard to actually OD on tramadol. If he has been taken to hospital the biggest worry, shallow breathing or stopping breathing, will be taken care of. Also 16 tablets of which strength and time of action. From memory I think you have to take an awful lot, particularly if you are used to taking them as pain killers. I'll go and see if I can find more on line. Don't panic, if he's on the way to hospital he is in good hands.

Gruntfuttock Mon 01-Dec-14 21:22:07

This IS an emergency! How is your relationship with your in-laws generally? Is there any reason why they wouldn't keep you informed?

Hatespiders Mon 01-Dec-14 21:25:35

Can you phone the hospital direct? As his wife (and presumably his next-of-kin) they should be prepared to give you an update on his condition.
So sorry, you must be frantic with worry. Hope he's okay.

KatyS36 Mon 01-Dec-14 21:25:41

Do you know your neighbours well enough to trust them with your children or do you have a girlfriend you could call?
There are some life situations where people really will drop everything to help and this sounds like one of them.
All the best Katy

InfinitySeven Mon 01-Dec-14 21:26:16

Looking at the overdose guidance, I'm cautiously optimistic that 16 won't be enough.

They are unlikely to pump his stomach so it could be 7 - 9 days of a drip in hospital.

Hide or remove meds from the house. Prepare to get through the week without him, and if possible, to get some babysitting so you can visit a few times. And have some sugary tea for your nerves.

fuckityfuckup Mon 01-Dec-14 21:26:48

We have a baby & I dont know them, we've just moved here. Im not even sure if he wants me there. They have all taken the car and I live in a village. Not sure if they even want me there. His mum just rang, and although she told me whats going on i.e they are being seen to, she was like, ooh ill have to go I don't like using my works phone.

Fruityflapjack Mon 01-Dec-14 21:28:15

I am so sorry that this is happening to you.

He will be seen in A&E. They will probably give him on some fluids overnight. He may be moved to the assessment ward or a ward area within A&E depending on your hospital. He will be seen by the psychiatric team, most likely in the morning and most likely a psychiatric assessment nurse. They will assess to see if he is psychologically stable to be discharged back home with community psychiatric support. If not they will arrange a bed in a psychiatric hospital. Be assured that most people return home the following day rather than be admitted to a psychiatric hospital.

Please be kind to yourself and try (easy to say I know) not to blame yourself. thanks

Cameochick11 Mon 01-Dec-14 21:29:30

Hugs to you all - you will get through this xx

Mama1980 Mon 01-Dec-14 21:30:17

I'm so sorry you are going through this.
Call the hospital directly, you're married you're his next of kin, they will be able to update you.
Have some sweet tea to drink, a biscuit if you can stomach it.
Is there Any chance you can get a neighbour/friend over?

Fruityflapjack Mon 01-Dec-14 21:30:38

If you want to know what is going on the A&E nurse may speak to you over the phone with your husbands consent. They may not as not all nurses are happy to discuss things over the phone.

The psychiatric team will be happy to talk to you I imagine, in fact they are often keen to and happy to.

Gruntfuttock Mon 01-Dec-14 21:31:31

Well I would phone the hospital and tell them you're his wife so need to know how he is and also tell his mum that since this is such an exceptional situation she should feel able to make calls to you, or at the very least accept calls from you asking for info, even though it is her work phone.

PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange Mon 01-Dec-14 21:31:31

Was it an accidental over dose or a planned overdose.

TheMaw Mon 01-Dec-14 21:32:55

I'm no expert but I don't think 16 tramadol could do that much damage, and I agree with the previous poster who said they'll probably put him on a drip and flush his system. Sorry not to add anything new but I thought it might help you that I had the same fist thoughts as other posters. Really sorry this has happened, hope you're ok and you get some news soon xx

notapizzaeater Mon 01-Dec-14 21:33:36

Even if you've just moved there most people would take you to the hospital.

Gruntfuttock Mon 01-Dec-14 21:34:32

PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange How could anyone accidentally take 16 tramadol?

HesterShaw Mon 01-Dec-14 21:35:59

Thinking of you. It sounds awful flowers

Just remember that mental illness is an illness, and he is in the right place to get help. Depression often doesn't happen for any reasons, and it can strike anyone. So please don't feel any responsibility for it happening. Just concentrate on one thing at a time x

SpringBreaker Mon 01-Dec-14 21:37:10

Had there been an argument? Are you ok?

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