PIL live over 200 miles away so they come and visit for a long weekend once every couple of months. We also go down to visit them too. We have two DS's who are 2 and 1.
We've just had a very tearful, emotional phone call from PIL who apparently are fed up that we don't talk to them enough, don't reply to texts/emails quickly enough and make them feel uncomfortable when they come to visit.
To be honest I completely see where they're coming from but I don't see how to fix it - we are total polar opposites. DH and I are very independent, quite private people who both suck at making small talk when the subject matter is inane (eg the weather, random neighbours we don't know etc). We have both always been like this and we would both much prefer to sit in a comfortable silence with each other than to talk for the sake of it. PIL are the opposite - talk constantly, want to know every aspect of our plans/lives, NEED to be helpful/useful and also can't sit still for more than 5 mins.
I don't know what to do I don't want them to feel uncomfortable and neglected but I'm also annoyed that they can't just take us as we are. We've tried to explain politely but just get countered with more tears and accusations from MIL. The kids adore them but their visits are becoming more and more hard work.
Anyone got any suggestions about how to deal with this?
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NoSnotAllowed · 19/11/2014 09:19
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