Hello everyone. There is a long backstory to this. If anyone remembers, I'm the poster with the evil Sil who told me I was too poor to talk to certain people at a wedding. Made me feel like I was a low class fool who couldn't talk to anyone richer than me. I've completely cut down contact for a few years now and am better for it but she and my brother still find ways to stab a knife where it hurts and I feel enough is enough.
Last week it was my dd's first birthday. The year before, on their ds's first birthday, my dd was 2 weeks old and I made time (took baby too) and gave him a present, because a baby's first birthday is important right? I was tired and breastfeeding wasn't going well, but I still went because I wanted to.
This year I took my dad to the hospital on dd's birthday and they called me whilst I was in the waiting area with dad (waiting for doctor to write a prescription) and started singing "happy birthday" down the phone, so I quickly stopped them and told them I was still in the hospital and I'd talk to them when I got home. This, it turns out, was an insult to sil. My brother came to pick up dad and didn't even mention dd's birthday. No one else came with him. No present for dd. Nothing. We'd cut a cake for dd that evening and I mentioned we thought everyone would come and wish her happy birthday and he barked back that I'd put the phone down on sil and his dd's. I replied I was at hospital and dd obviously wasn't with me, so what was I supposed to do? He didn't reply.
2 days later it was dd1's birthday who is now 7. No phone call. Nothing. Not even a text message.
I make sure I go to meet My nieces on their birthdays give them cards and money or a present because kids like that don't they?
I'm sick of family not treating my children the same as I treat theirs.
So it's dnephew's birthday next week and I'm thinking of ignoring it and not going. Does this make me a complete bitch? I really don't know how to play this. Does anyone have any good advice because it really hurts when they ignore my children and the spiteful bitch in me want to get my own back but I know it's wrong :(
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FamilySucks · 15/11/2014 13:41
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