Theres lots of back history between myself and sister. She's 14 years older than me. She's an alcoholic but has been dry for 15years+ and she more or less raised me as a young child as our mum was very poorly for a long time.
I also realise that my wedding means more to me than anyone else, but..
Manshape and I are getting married in September. We set a date last June, so theres 15 months thereabouts between that and the actual wedding.
My sister and i of late have seemed to have a strained relationship. We've drifted apart somewhat, and i'm not sure why that is. I have five children and they keep me busy, whereas her children are grown, although some of them live at home with their children too. I live in Swansea, she lives about 250 miles away.
When we announced we were getting married she didn't really say much. I told her then that we would happily pay for her hotel room as we know it's expensieve to trek down here etc, and as far as we knew, she was happy with that.
We'd been keeping in touch via fb recently, and i messaged her last week to ask her how many people were coming from her end as i needed to know number for the venue etc. My 23 year old neice messaged me back saying that they didn't think they would be able to afford it. I reminded them again of my offer of paying for their hotel room, and said that i really wanted them there so i'd also pay for their travel costs too - either hiring a car for them or trian fares.She replied saying that nothing in this life was ever free, and that i for one should know that, and besides, she had better things to spend her money on, so no, none of them would be coming to my wedding.
I am so incredibly sad about this. And hurt and angry. They are my family - surely they would want to be there for my special day? What have i done to them for them to hurt me like this?
I replied to them saying how much their decision not to be there for me had hurt me, and haven't heard anything back from them at all. I guess they just don't care
That's it now though. They have hurt me one too many times, and this snub is just the straw that's broken me. Even if they changed their minds now and said they wanted to come i wouldn't want them there.
AIBU in cutting them out of my life now? Am i being bridezilla about it all?
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To say that's it and cut her out of my life for good? Or am i a Bridezilla? Be honest please!
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deemented · 28/03/2013 22:22
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